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I might get hate because of my instance here, but in an attempt to better understand Lemmy I’m wondering if some of you can shed a light on why you chose this instance, what’s great about it, what could be better, is the instance rivalries something that affects your use of the platform or is it just background noise?

I’m not trying to start a fight or mud slinging, it would be good if several people could say their piece and nobody shame or attack them for it no matter how much you disagree.

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[–] SpookyBogMonster@lemmy.ml 42 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

.ml is mostly fine. I picked it, because it gives me a good view of both Hexbear and Lemmygrad, because I like seeing what the lefty-side of Lemmy is up to (turns out its a lot more posts about Beans than you might expect), while also letting me see most of the mainstream of Lemmy, which has more of a traditional old-Reddit style culture, which is nice.

I enjoy politics posting, and discussion. But it's nice seeing other kinds of stuff too, and .ml let's me do both.

What annoys me, and this is a Lemmy-wide problem, is people making assumptions about other's beliefs based soley on their instance of choice. It's not helpful, it's not generative, and it's a waste of everyone's time.

Like, I don't think you should be getting hate, just because you're a .world user. As long as you're asking a question in good faith, and not being a shithead, I see no reason why you posing this here should be an issue ¯_(ツ)_/¯

[–] dessalines@lemmy.ml 32 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

is people making assumptions about other's beliefs based soley on their instance of choice. It's not helpful, it's not generative, and it's a waste of everyone's time.

Spot on. Taking countries as an analogy for fediverse instances, we shouldn't make all the citizens of those countries into an ideological monolith: there's always a diversity of views, even if some views are more predominant than others because they're encouraged from the top.

And above all we should not be alienating and unecessarily divisive to those who, with a little education and prodding in the right direction, will side with the majority of the world's workers. Our job is to make allies, patiently educate, and create more caring people.

[–] eggpl4nt@lemmy.world 7 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

What's the story with the bean posting? I'm new to the Lemmiverse.

[–] BanMeFromPosting@lemmy.ml 11 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Hexbear has a lot of vegans.
Vegans like beans.
"Beans" sounds sort of like "beanis" which sounds like "penis".
Hexbear has a comm committed to making bad posts and a general fondness for stupid humor (I guess most everyone does, just depends on what they consider humor).

These four conditions combined created a hurricane of beans.

[–] eggpl4nt@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago

Thank you for enlightening me. 🫘

[–] kingofras@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago

Bean here for 2 years and still don’t know.