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Do we really want Lemmy's userbase to grow and assimilate "normies"? (lemmy.world)

submitted 6 hours ago by SlayersFan@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I know the word normies may have weird connotations, but I just mean that, regular everyday people.

I've been enjoying Lemmy a lot and even recommended it to a few close friends who are working in tech. But I would like Lemmy to be way bigger, maybe have those makefriends communities like reddit has, be it gaming friends, just for chatting, for voicecalls, etc etc...

But I also wonder, could growing Lemmy indiscriminately be a bad thing? As you relax filters and barriers to entry, yes, more people can come in, but I have a feeling the quality of the people might go down aswell.

Is a clique-like platform what Lemmy is supposed to be like? Or is it supposed to try and absorb as much users as possible and be just a user-managed user-owned reddit alternative with no ads and less censorship?

I believe the answer may lie somewhere in the middle, but I'd love to hear your thoughts on it, as I'm a total newbie on here.

(Also I understand private dms on Lemmy are not secure, but you can keep the idea of the "r4r" community and just drop a matrix or session link in dms, not perfect as the admins can be what username you sent out, but at least it ends there)

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[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 9 points 6 hours ago (3 children)

Weirdos are fine if they keep to themselves, but the issue they don't and won't.

You can't have any discussion of anything on lemmy without insane people chiming in and trying to derail the conversation by making it all about themselves, and injecting their violent rhetoric into it. I've seen many peaceful threads in lemmy get ruined a few hours later by an influx of the virtue signalling nutbags on here who feel compelled to harass and insult anyone or any viewpoint they deem morally impure. And it sucks to be around folks who are only online to get high on their own supply and have nothing of substance to contribute to any conversation other than how much better they are than other people.

[–] dreadbeef@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

Then ask your admins to defederate with wierdo instances. The dbzero admins have a track record of being open about defederation and being open to user opinion.

[–] ItsComplicated@sh.itjust.works 11 points 6 hours ago

You can't have any discussion of anything on lemmy without insane people chiming in and trying to derail the conversation by making it all about themselves, and injecting their violent rhetoric into it.

That is anywhere you go. Not just Lemmy.

[–] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 0 points 4 hours ago (2 children)

I'm not sure if I'm a normie or weirdo here. Like I enjoyed the internet when it was just a bunch of tech nerds sharing their geekery with one another. And I hate that now it's full of morons who inundate the rest of us with their love of sportball and reality tv and fucking mundanity. But also there are weirdos here that I want nothing to do with. So this all strikes me as very perspective-dependent.

[–] SlayersFan@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago

og internet rocked, forums and IRC, I was a loser with no friends at school, but online I found my people, nowdays everyone is online and this is kinda gone (at least in mainstream social media apps)

But it might be a matter of organizing people into different "servers", my only worry is this being a thing that could be hard, so it's kinda better to only invite "selected people", meaning online friends you feel would be a good fit for the community.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 1 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

Because it is. What's normal for me isn't for you.

I don't see anyone on here going on about sportsball or TV shows. But reddit became like that for sure.

I'm an evil normie here because I own a Nintendo Switch and enjoy it, rather than pirating all my games on my $5000 linux gaming PC, which seems to be the 'norm' for lemmy gamers.