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Anyone else feel too guilty to open messages/emails after you've put them off for too long? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 4 hours ago by SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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Opening them feels daunting the minute they come, and the longer I put them off due to that, the more guilt gets added to the mix too, so they just go unadressed.

Has anyone found a strategy that works for this?

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[–] aburrito@sh.itjust.works 13 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Something I’ve been working on in therapy is “microavoidances” where you keep ignoring small things to the point your brain is wiring itself to think the small task you’re avoiding is actually a big problem. Just recognize when you’re doing it, see if the discomfort of checking is worse than the discomfort of continuing to avoid it. But really, it’s just practice doing the tasks you’re avoiding until you build up a tolerance

[–] aburrito@sh.itjust.works 6 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Adding, you don’t have to complete the tasks, just move them closer to a state of being complete. If it’s the dishes move them closer to the dishwasher everytime you pass by it and notice it, for instance

[–] snooggums@piefed.world 1 points 3 hours ago

Or load some if them which can make coming back to finish them easier.