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There could be a variety of reasons for this behavior...
But here's the thing... the root cause is not important (yet)
If your partner is unwilling or unable to support you, that's not a good partner for you. That doesn't make her a bad person necessarily...she may not be capable of dealing with everything you're going through. But even if that's the case then she still might not be the right partner for you.
I recommend trying to get her to focus on you before having your next conversation about this. Don't start talking about the problem until her phone is away and she's making eye contact. Don't do it over text.
If that goes okay, then tell her what you need. Don't sugar coat it or be vague. Tell her directly "when I say this particular please it means I'm looking to you for support and I need you to lock in, listen to where I'm saying, and engage with me as a supportive partner."
If she can't do that much, then it is probably time to move on. And if she listens and ignores you...it's probably time to move one.
Communication is hard. And it's the most important thing in relationships.
Good luck!
EDIT TO ADD: As someone else said, she also can't be your therapist. Especially not at your ages. That doesn't mean she can't listen and provide comfort though. It's important to manage your expectations - she's not going to be able to give you advice or help you solve these issues - but it is not unreasonable to expect that she gives you her undivided attention when you are vulnerable
I completely agree with that. I don't want her to give me advice, I just want her to listen, I should add.