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Yeah, I know. I've been in counseling pretty much my whole life. That's fine.
The caveat is that, for some reason, we're all expected not only to do the right thing but also to be morally adept in absolutely everything we do.
But the issue here is this: What happens when that doesn't work? What if the solution requires something more aggressive, something that isn't necessarily positive or pleasant?
Sometimes the best way to move forward is through confrontation. Sometimes you need to lash out, have an angry explosion, or force a difficult conversation that could ultimately be beneficial for both parties.
What's significantly worse is simply telling OP to break up with his girlfriend, move on, and find someone better. That's truly horrendous advice. It doesn't benefit either party in any meaningful way, especially considering that we don't even know these people or the circumstances surrounding their relationship.
So what's the best advice to give here? He's already been nice. He's already tried talking to her. He's already expressed himself in a way that should make his feelings clear, and yet she still isn't responding.
People are animals on a fundamental level. We respond to stimuli, both positive and negative. Just because someone might resort to a negative strategy to elicit a response doesn't automatically make the outcome negative. It could potentially save their entire relationship, or it could make both of them realize that they need to move on and find someone who's better suited for them.
I genuinely feel that what I'm advising is significantly better than simply telling someone to break up with their partner and find somebody better. That's truly horrible advice to give someone when you have so little information about their relationship.