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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.today/post/63107763

I'm looking for something like Snikket or Prosody, but kids-oriented. I DON'T want my <10 daughter using Meta Messenger Kids! I'll tell my friends to setup for their kids, too. I'd have no access to anything, so it's secure (mom and dad not snooping per se), but the downside is minimal parental controls. Though, no one to really add either.

I'll host or pay for it, IDC. It doesn't seem like there is much out there either.

JusTalk seemed nice when I found out but apparently China owned and so no more secure. I/we need better options!

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[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 4 points 1 hour ago (2 children)

How would you compare setting up your own Matrix server vs an XMPP server?

I was going to recommend XMPP to OP, and I don't have any experience with setting up Matrix.

[–] Colloidal@programming.dev 3 points 1 hour ago

AFAIK, xmpp is easier to maintain and requires less resources.

[–] CMDR_Horn@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

I have no skin in either game, so I couldn't give you an honest answer here. I only suggested matrix because I believe it would fit the scenario

[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 1 points 52 minutes ago

Bummer.

Oh well