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Ik the bar and club scene have women but it's not likely to go anywhere plus one or both parties are drunk. Just curious to see what people think on the topic. The beach is a spot I'm trying to push myself to talk to women at

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[–] Libb@piefed.social 9 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Besides bars and clubs, how does a guy put himself around more women?

Hobbies should be a good starting point. With a caveat.

I'm into sketching/watercolors and I can tell you I constantly meet people (women and men) that are into the same hobby.

We can meet by accident at the art store, or at gatherings, expo (or class), or by just being on the same spot at the same time painting the same thing (I live in Paris, we have many nice spots for painters). More often than not, these women are quite happy to spend some time sharing a genuine common interest without constantly having to worry about anything happening.

Because, as far as I'm concerned, and that's the caveat I mentioned, I don't expect anything else to happen when I meet someone who is into the some hobby as I am. I don't do that to meet women (or men). I do that because I enjoy sketching and watercolors (like I enjoy playing chess) and I don't give a fuck about women being there or not. But I'm also always happy to meet someone interesting. I don't know if this makes sense? It kinda makes sense to me ;)

And btw, through that common hobby, I meet women (and men) from all age and from all conditions. Not just 50+ old farts (like I'm) but also quite many that are barely in their 20s, or even less. And barely any of them were drunk... so far :p

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