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I'm not going to tell you your methodology is wrong, you give a perfectly valid reason for doing what you do.
I don't so much as avoid them, I will still often check what they are saying, but I look at what they're saying to other people. If I know someone is trolly or has a pretty shitty bias, if I see them misrepresenting things, it offers me a way to maybe offer a contrary opinion to those they're talking to, or I can see they may be the wrong person to talk to about ethical/moral things but may still be good for getting answers to technical questions from.
There's people here I just won't engage with at all just as in the real world, but just like in life there's people I know to just avoid certain topics or opinions with but they're still ok people or can be helpful in the right context.
Now, both online and in real life, if I encounter one of those people who swears everyone is always starting shit with them for no reason, often it becomes obvious that there is a reason why they have so many problems with other people, and usually they are the common denominator. Not always, but I'd say the majority of the time. And especially someone proud of telling strangers that they have a big list of people they don't like or want to waste their time on, it makes me wonder why. That's why it's a red flag. You can tell me that's who you are, and I don't have to decide that second to avoid you, but I'm certainly going to feel you out a bit more than I would someone else that decides to give me a friendlier first impression. That's me looking out for me, just as your methodology does for you.
I just see myself as someone who gives strangers the benefit of the doubt to start with, and that is yours to mess up. Some people don't trust strangers and they have to earn that initial trust first. I don't know you or your story so I won't hold that against you, but I do feel that tells me something about you. You have to actively work on it for me to outright distrust you, but at the same time, don't think of my trust and friendliness as naivete. I'm paying attention very closely, I'm just letting you show me who you are rather than forming my own assumptions.