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I personally cringe when I hear a friend js having a kid. All I can think of is how bad theyre going to have it. Hell id definitely have been better off being born 20 years earlier, but these new kids are REALLY screwed unless they have super rich parents.

"Nothing new under the sun" I suppose!

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[–] obsoleteacct@lemmy.zip 0 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I think you may just need to talk to somebody this comment is out of my depth.

[–] frog_brawler@lemmy.world 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)

We’re all talking now. I don’t find that perspective to be one that equates uniquely to a depressed person. That perspective is relatively prevalent within this thread, but also somewhat prevalent within social circles that I find myself in.

[–] obsoleteacct@lemmy.zip 0 points 6 days ago (1 children)

"my life is so miserable that I would rather see the continuation of the species voluntarily end that risk someone else suffers like me" is depression. Maybe it's not suicidal depression, but it probably requires intervention.

Maybe it's just immature edgelord BS, but if not that's a serious problem.

[–] frog_brawler@lemmy.world 1 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (3 children)

I really think you’re missing the target entirely.

There’s not a biological imperative for humans to reproduce. It’s pretty egotistical to assume that your species “deserves” to exist. Can you tell me what about our species is so special?

Calling something “a problem,” and failing to articulate on what specifically makes it a problem is MAGA level thinking.

Also, I would really like to debate if my way of thinking is problematic. I genuinely would like to know, but it might just be a matter of opinion. Psychiatry seems like a gaslighting industry selling pills sometimes, so who knows.

[–] ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

I am open minded towards the idea that it might be a problem. To me is sounds logical. Assume a 40 hour work week. A quick cost benefit analysis of life reveals numbers that don't check out. Time to sleep + time to get ready for work + eat + commute + work shitty job all day + commute again + eat + any chores or shit that you have to do = about 4 hours a day free. Factor in a 4 hours of errands like getting groceries, various things, and chores = 4 hours per week. So you have to sleep 16 hour over weekend. That leaves approx 48 awake hours of free time a week assuming there are no children or aging parents to care for. Most of which I personally spend exhausted from all the other shit. I think there are 168 hours in a week. 56 of those are sleep. That leaves only 48 hours a week out of the 112 you are awake that you do not spend doing shit you do not want to be doing. 64 hours bullshit, only 48 hours to recharge and fit relaxation into hectic week. Bless you if you live in India or Japan with a 60-80 hour workweek. Thats 84 hours of bullshit with 28 recovery hours, or 104 hours bullshit, with 8 hours a week to recover.

[–] obsoleteacct@lemmy.zip 0 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I didn't say anything about deserve, I don't really understand why you have it in quotes.

I thought it was pretty clearly implied the problem was a mental health issue. I'm not a psychiatrist so I'm not qualified to say what the particular mental health issue is any more than I would be able to qualify or runny nose as a cold or allergies or a flu. I just know a symptom when I see it.

A person that wants to determine what species do and do not "deserve" to exist is outside of my pay grade, but clearly unwell.

[–] frog_brawler@lemmy.world 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

You sound like MAGA. There is no health issue and you’re not qualified.

[–] obsoleteacct@lemmy.zip 0 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Genuinely, there have been many people in my life who have needed help along the way. There's no shame in this. Depression will tell you not to fix your depression.

You can be living a totally "normal" life while on the cusp of crisis and not realize it. There is no harm in talking to someone about these feelings. I implore you.

With that, you can call me whatever names you want, or talk about how weird or bad or whatever I am... I'm going to bow out here.

[–] frog_brawler@lemmy.world 1 points 5 days ago

You should have bowed out a long time ago; before you were misdiagnosing people.