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It ain’t easy. I’ve found this quote from CS Lewis to be true
“Friendship ... is born at the moment when one man says to another "What! You too? I thought that no one but myself . . .”
In other words, friendships are often about or around something. Work friends. Gaming friends. Etc. it’s 100000x easier to talk about something with a stranger and allow more personal things to trickle in.
I was just at PAX West and was waiting in line for an hour. The guy in front of me cracked a joke and I laughed and played along. I asked him if he attended cons a lot. Which led to ones he’d been to and favorite ones which led to the developers who had the best booths to favorite games to favorite movies. We chatted for an hour about stuff we liked. We had lots of similar interests in gaming, movies, etc.
This is where you need to have some interests to talk about and if you don’t, then you need to find some. Hiking, gaming, puzzles, whatever.
Don’t discount online friends too. Find a discord about something you like and just start participating
What about feelings? Shared values? Sadness over loved ones' who have passed? Worry about the destiny of humanity? Don't we already share a lot simply as human beings? 😅
Yes, of course. I’m just saying at the beginning of a friendship it often forms around something you both do or enjoy