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Is it okay for a therapist to tell me to just accept this trait? (lemmy.zip)

submitted 1 hour ago by aavied@lemmy.zip to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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I have ADHD, and my therapist has confirmed it, just like the results of ADHD tests. He isn't bad, he greatly helps me with my depression. However, he doesn't provide an official diagnosis nor prescribe pills.

He says it's my trait and that I should learn to live with it. Like, take more breaks, find a motivation. Easy to say, hard to do. I can't keep up with the strategies he suggests, and I feel like I'm not trying hard enough.

The world doesn't wait for me. This trait is ruining my work and my routine, and it's stealing my money and my time. I can't start tasks, I can't concentrate, and I can't do anything boring or unpleasant.

For example, I can stare at a wall in the middle of a work task, with my hand over the keyboard, and lose myself in thoughts about my hobby. And I don't give a damn at this moment about all my reminders, the absence of irritants, and so on.

Of course, sometimes I can force myself "just to do it", but it costs a ton of energy (btw, because of my depression, I have a tiny amount of energy). It often requires a ton of luck, too.

Is this normal? Am I just complaining?

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[–] aavied@lemmy.zip 2 points 32 minutes ago (1 children)

I understand. I was once refused a diagnosis of pneumonia because "people don't breathe like that with pneumonia." It turned out that I had pneumonia, and I spent a month in the hospital

[–] M1ch431@slrpnk.net 1 points 25 minutes ago

Yeah, it's pretty crazy what can happen.

Related, as a young child, I had very severe breathing problems - but no wheezing. Turns out I have an atypical presentation of asthma (like cough-variant asthma or silent asthma) and I was nearly dying for over a year before the doctor referred me to an asthma and allergy specialist and admitted they couldn't help me to my parents.

I get it, going through all that education, training, and practice is worthy of recognition, but the best doctor knows their limits and passes you along to someone who is equipped and specialized.

I think that it's great that you posted here and I hope things get better for you!