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Hey! just recently went to my psycologist, and i found alot of new things with me! ofc i had some things in background why it was so hard in school and social life and other things. but i found out that i was diagnosed with auditory memeory issue when i was 4 (and my parents never said anything to me when i was older). but that diagnose can also be a misdiagnose off add, which the test was not for. so ye, found out alot of my history and my current problems last couple of months, and got diagnosed with add well got kicked out of uni last year, had no motivation at all, and it was pain reading. so after some months, i went to psycologist about depression and fucos issue, and ye, pretty sure i have ADD with some languge diffuclitys, but not auditory memeoryproblem. wanted to killmyself so many times, and motivation for anything was just ass. and i guess it will take some time to fix it. do you have any tips what helped you, and how you find passion in school or job? :) thank you!

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[–] RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 1 points 12 minutes ago

Can you get ADHD meds? These do not solve problems, but can make it easier to work around them.

[–] scbasteve7@lemm.ee 1 points 37 minutes ago

Copious amounts of caffeine and nicotine tend to do the trick for me lmao

[–] muntedcrocodile@hilariouschaos.com 2 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

Get a notebook and pen/mechanical pencil keep both on you at all times. When u think of something u need to do/remember write it down. Check said book regularly (set alarm on ur phone if u need to) multiple times a day. At the end of a day make a list of things u want to accomplish tomorrow. Don't worry if u don't do everything on the list, just try do better today than u did yesterday and don't worry if u don't.

Drugs are very helpful (not like illegal shit) caffeine, nicotine (don't smoke its too risky if u must find alternative sources), prescribed meds, etc. Booze, weed, video games, social media, etc are fine in moderation and a good reward for applying pavlovian conditioning to yourself but if ur not careful will suck you down a rabbit hole of depression and reliance and ruin your life.

Remove distractions and time wasting addictions (being bored is good it gives you motivation to do something productive). Delete social media set limits you cannot bypass. Feel guilty every time u break your own rules it motivates you to do something productive.

Take the little wins. Cleaned room, did dishes, got out of bed at a decent time. If ur feeling restless try walking even pacing back and forth helps. Go to bed at a regular time as much as possible. Find people who will hold you accountable that you don't want to disappoint. Do exercise regularly.

Don't just try one strategy then have it fail and collapse and throw it out forever. Don't expect instant change, don't expect to do all these things, write em down do some try do more tomorrow.

Whatever you do just remember that giving up is worse than failing. Be ready to fail repeatedly over and over and over again. Failure is expected giving up is infinity worse. Don't beat urself up over your failures, take note of them and do better next time.

Somewhat works for me, got me through 80% of an engineering degree so far.

[–] otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

I spent far too long trying to sort out what the acronym "fucos" stood for... 🤦🏼‍♂️

Also, totally not a dig on your spelling! I was entirely making fun of my immediate-task-is-ALL brain. 🙇🏼‍♂️

[–] BradleyUffner@lemmy.world 7 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

Medication, especially when you first start taking it, will usually have a very strong effect. It'll give you laser focus. The problem is that the focus will be on whatever you happen to be "aimed" at at the time. The trick to using that effectively is to make sure you are aimed at what you actually want to focus on, so you don't end up cleaning your entire house instead of your expected work.

[–] BeefPiano@lemmy.world 10 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Expecting passion from work or school seems like a high goal. It’s ok to not have that.

Anyway, my tips are therapy and meds. They work best together, and in some cases don’t work at all if you just have one.

[–] edvardgm@lemm.ee 3 points 20 hours ago

thank you! ye been testing alot of test last couple of weeks, and will work togther with my psycologist in the future!

[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 12 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago) (2 children)

Make the best use of your medicated time to build routines for consistency, which in my case helped even after the meds wore off (eventually). Putting keys and wallet in the same space actually stuck after taking meds!

Other than that, do consider that the meds won't work all day so plan around them. Work and home upkeep while they are working is great, downtime for things like games or winding down after they wear off. It won't cause motivation to do things you want to do while it is working, but it sure helps with barriers!

[–] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 4 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

This is spot on. Also accept that you will not be immediately successful at either devising new habits and behaviors, nor at executing them. Stick with it. The bonus of the meds is that you CAN actually think of, and build up, the good habits now; but it takes practice. Don’t beat yourself up if you backslide either. Just keep at it.

[–] edvardgm@lemm.ee 4 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

thank you! yee, my whole life been a mess, i just foguht i was weird, or a bit worse on social and school then others, but seems like add gave me depression, bad sleep, and hopeless

[–] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 2 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I was in the same boat, my friend. I know exactly how you feel. If it helps, I am now killing it at life after a year and a half on meds. I wasted the first 6 months smoking weed though, which for me negates almost all the good effects of the adderall.

[–] edvardgm@lemm.ee 2 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

haha, yee, lets see how my new life is, its been a joke up untill now :P

[–] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 1 points 8 hours ago

I’m rooting for you, brother

[–] edvardgm@lemm.ee 3 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

yee, if i get med and it works, proboly would only use it for school or work, thanks!

atleast gaming gets things out my head! but its kinda an addiction too, idk

[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 3 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

In my experience it still improved things after the meds wore off because I spent less time kicking myself for screwing up earlier in the day! So it had positive impacts outside of work and school because I could enjoy the more relaxed stuff.

I do use games to help unwind in the evenings, but as long as I do it in moderation it is more like mental meditation/exercise which helps with sleeping and overall mental health. I play games from about 8-10 p.m. nowadays, because it is after family things have settled down and about an hour before bedtime.

[–] edvardgm@lemm.ee 2 points 16 hours ago

ye, im on disablity for since this month, and will take a breather from life couple of months as psycologist recommended. getting around 2800dollar a month, (norway), i have no idea what to do with lfie currently haha