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I genuinely can't remember my parents ever talking to me about sex.
Catholic middle school "educated" me. I remember going to see a lady who yelled out a dozen or two names of various STIs as part of some abstinence bullshit.
Honestly not sure if it was a good or bad thing that I didn't really know I was gay back then. but I sure as hell am glad I went to public high school instead of a catholic one.
Basically don't use drugs or you'll destroy your life.
Sex was avoided as a topic, but we were taught that premarital sex is a sin. I was also teased as a kid about having crushes on girls (I'm male), despite my adament (and truthful) denials, and othertimes they'd joke that I'd change my mind once I was older. I won that though - turns out I was gay and never did change my mind.
As for LGBT issues, it was so taboo / not talked about that I didn't even connect my confusing feelings for male classmates with me being gay until I was 18. I thought everyone felt like that and was frustrated when they wouldn't reciprocate those emotions back.
I was about 8 years old: "You wanna know what beer tastes like? Here, gross right? So you're never going to drink one again right?"
He did the same with cigarettes immediately after.
In my teen years: "I'm not going to lie to you son, sex feels great. But if you do it with the wrong person it can ruin the rest of your life and you'll never get to do it again so make sure she's right for you before you do it or you'll regret it for the rest of your life"
My mom bought some kinda picture book series to explain it to me gradually as I grew up. I think they were aged by grade or something and we were supposed to read one a year? Little me read constantly and I blew through all the Goosebumps I had checked out from the library and went looking for something else. I found the baby making book stack on the floor in my mom's room, sat down, and read all of them. Then I went and told my mom her books were weird. She was mortified. She made me dad debrief with me that night and she never mentioned it again.
My mom asked me if I liked girls once. That's the only time I can recall anything close to either of those topics coming up.
They put on "Kids" and said if you want to live that life here's how you'll end up.
They made me watch Woodstock footage.
From what I remember, pretty casual. I was real young when I first heard about boners on a ytp video, but I don't think my mom explained what it was because I was too young. Otherwise, it was chill on the sex front. Got a talk from my dad for some reason on a 2 person paddle boat on a lake. Otherwise, that's all I can remember of my parents talking sex ed to me, which is fine since I am a pretty safe sex positive person despite never doing it with anything but my hand.
As for drugs, also pretty relaxed. My parents wouldn't wanna see us doing any hardcore drugs but are fine with drugs in most situations. Exception being things like when doctors wanted to give an adult dose of addictive pain killers to my older brother who was pre-teen at the time. They would also rather we do drugs at home in case something happens. Same thing with drinking. They're also okay with weed, but I am the only person in the immediate family who doesn't do it ar all ( health reasons ).
Same rules applied to alcohol, but I never really drank until legal age because I was more boring as a teen than I currently am.
Non-existant. However, my older brother did have Fanny Hill, Lady Chatterly's Lover, Portnoy's Complaint & The Doors of Perception on his shelf - and we also had encyclopedias.
I think they day don't want me doing drugs because I might take theirs. That was the vibe I got.
I received a book.
