this post was submitted on 28 Aug 2026
46 points (91.1% liked)

Ask Lemmy

41148 readers
2732 users here now

A Fediverse community for open-ended, thought provoking questions


Rules: (interactive)


1) Be nice and; have funDoxxing, trolling, sealioning, racism, toxicity and dog-whistling are not welcomed in AskLemmy. Remember what your mother said: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. In addition, the site-wide Lemmy.world terms of service also apply here. Please familiarize yourself with them


2) All posts must end with a '?'This is sort of like Jeopardy. Please phrase all post titles in the form of a proper question ending with ?


3) No spamPlease do not flood the community with nonsense. Actual suspected spammers will be banned on site. No astroturfing.


4) NSFW is okay, within reasonJust remember to tag posts with either a content warning or a [NSFW] tag. Overtly sexual posts are not allowed, please direct them to either !asklemmyafterdark@lemmy.world or !asklemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com. NSFW comments should be restricted to posts tagged [NSFW].


5) This is not a support community.
It is not a place for 'how do I?', type questions. If you have any questions regarding the site itself or would like to report a community, please direct them to Lemmy.world Support or email info@lemmy.world. For other questions check our partnered communities list, or use the search function.


6) No US Politics.
Please don't post about current US Politics. If you need to do this, try !politicaldiscussion@lemmy.world or !uspolitics@lemmy.world


7) No Hit-and-Run questions.
Please don't delete your post for no apparent reason. If you plan on deleting a question later, say so in the post, or if you feel that you have a good reason to remove it, message a mod beforehand. It's not fair to the ones who took their time to answer, and it's not in the spirit of the community.


8) No Bots.
Posts or comments from bots, LLM's, AIs, Neural Networks, Transformers, or Marvin the Paranoid Android are not welcome in AskLemmy. Real humans only please.


Reminder: The terms of service apply here too.

Partnered Communities:

Tech Support

No Stupid Questions

You Should Know

Reddit

Jokes

Ask Ouija


Logo design credit goes to: tubbadu


founded 3 years ago
MODERATORS
top 50 comments
sorted by: hot top controversial new old
[–] SmuttyLad@fedinsfw.app 1 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

Maybe once per month? Probably less. I really tend to prefer audio and text.

Somewhere between “every other day” and “every other week”

[–] exaybachae@startrek.website 2 points 10 hours ago

I see tits everywhere....

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 1 points 10 hours ago
[–] nymnympseudonym@piefed.social 43 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

"Watch" is entirely too passive a verb

[–] MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca 8 points 22 hours ago

"Fine, I'll do it myself!" - nymnympsuedonym.

[–] akunohana@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

It depends on my mental health. During certain periods, it's every day. Other periods, nothing for a month or so. The worse my mental condition, the more I watch. Not that I pretend to know what the "real" or "correct" way to watch porn is, but I only ever use it as a coping mechanism. It helps me escape reality for a few minutes. Recently, I have begun trying to limit my consumption, because I don't really want to escape reality. As of today, I haven't watched anything for about two weeks.

[–] weeeeum@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago

Same. If I'm at home trying to sleep I will genuinely have a panic attack without it. It's the only thing that strongly occupies my attention enough to prevent a panic attack from setting in (that I can do while in bed)

Anything else is not personally engaging enough to prevent my mind from wandering (like listening to music, browsing Lemmy, or reading)

[–] jtrek@startrek.website 11 points 19 hours ago

Occasionally. It's frustrating that most free porn sites are kind of bad at search and filter. You'd think a tagging system would be easy to implement but most sites seem to just have a barely functional search.

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 4 points 15 hours ago

I've toned down the porn and trained my brain to settle (usually) for clothed images of hot people and its imagination. It feels better and it leaves more room for escalation

[–] theuniqueone@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Not at all mainly read erotica instead.

[–] RFKJrsBrainworm@sh.itjust.works 3 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Any suggestions other than Literotica

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 4 points 18 hours ago

I would poke around "romantasy" style fiction books. There's a lot of erotica in there and a pretty large fan base.

[–] greatwhitebuffalo41@slrpnk.net 24 points 23 hours ago (3 children)

It's probably been years. I prefer to read my porn. My brain just can't get around the fact that so much porn is non consensual, there's a lot of human trafficking, and even the ones who do consent aren't usually being paid well. And there's not a very good way to sus out the more ethical to the less ethical porn. Also the second someone starts obviously faking things, it ruins everything for me so, reading it is just significantly easier for me.

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 1 points 10 hours ago

My brain just can't get around the fact that so much porn is non consensual, there's a lot of human trafficking, and even the ones who do consent aren't usually being paid well.

some folks pay extra for that.

load more comments (2 replies)
[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 29 points 1 day ago

It varies as with anything in life. Sometimes it’s every day, sometimes I’ll go months without.

[–] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 14 points 22 hours ago (3 children)

My wife and I used to watch porn very often. Nowadays it's almost never. I cannot speak for her but for me the fakeness of it all became very cringey for me. Now, if I do watch, I stick to Lustery. It's a site that focuses on real couples. Watching loving couples laughing and enjoying each other is a lot hotter to me than most of the fake stuff out there.

Hilariously, many couples post travel vlogs with a sprinkle of sex in the end. I tend to watch the travel bit and skip the sex because I'm far more interested in the non-touristy places they go because the income comes from the porn bit rather than trying to be an influencer.

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 2 points 15 hours ago

the non-touristy places they go because the income comes from the porn bit rather than trying to be an influencer.

That's actually so clever! Paid to do what you love, on both fronts

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 4 points 19 hours ago

Watching loving couples laughing and enjoying each other is a lot hotter to me than most of the fake stuff out there.

So hot! I've really enjoyed the evolution of porn in this way. So many candid, loving couples having fun together!

[–] Poem_for_your_sprog@lemmy.world 2 points 19 hours ago (1 children)
[–] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 3 points 19 hours ago

In Lustery.

[–] DigDoug@lemmy.world 15 points 1 day ago
[–] Aurenkin@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] cRazi_man@europe.pub 3 points 22 hours ago (3 children)

Is there a podcast you subscribe to or something?

[–] Aurenkin@sh.itjust.works 1 points 13 hours ago

Shibby is good as another commenter mentioned. If you don't mind visiting Reddit there's an erotic audio sub there that is unfortunately quite good and I don't really know a better source.

[–] Trual@lemmy.world 3 points 22 hours ago

Try shibby, she has her own site

load more comments (1 replies)
[–] Tywele@piefed.social 8 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Used to watch almost every day, then I started HRT. Now I never watch.

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 1 points 10 hours ago

that's rather interesting. most that I heard of, it was the opposite.

was your therapist surprised?

[–] atro_city@fedia.io 18 points 23 hours ago (3 children)
[–] canaryWart@programming.dev 2 points 11 hours ago

Hormonal Replacement Therapy

[–] snooggums@piefed.world 21 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago) (1 children)
[–] atro_city@fedia.io 1 points 3 hours ago

Got bonked too many times.

[–] remon@ani.social 3 points 23 hours ago

Got a job at Hudson River Trading.

[–] kubofhromoslav@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Poem_for_your_sprog@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What are you, southern Baptist?

[–] kubofhromoslav@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

Heh, no 😂 I just don't like it. Erotica art without sex is max that I like in this regard.

[–] TheLunatickle@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 3 points 23 hours ago

This is one of my favorite bits they do

[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 7 points 1 day ago

https://youtu.be/iaHDBL7dVgs

Most relevant line,

"When correctly viewed, everything is lewd...

"I can tell you things about Peter Pan, and the Wizard of Oz is a dirty old man.

[–] atro_city@fedia.io 5 points 23 hours ago (1 children)
[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 2 points 15 hours ago

Good answer 👍

[–] Dzheyk@sh.itjust.works 3 points 21 hours ago

I think I've conditioned myself to the point where it's it's pretty rare I go a day without watching at least one thing. Doesn't mean I always DO anything while watching, but that's an answer for another question.

[–] Knoxer@lemmy.world 3 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Just watch? Everyday someone will send me a porn for sure somewhere, or it could be that I search for it. But surely at least one a day

[–] Dzheyk@sh.itjust.works 7 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Someone sends you a porn every day? What kind of friend group or polycule do you have going on?

[–] Nasan@sopuli.xyz 11 points 15 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Dzheyk@sh.itjust.works 5 points 12 hours ago

Not gonna lie...I fuckin love that as a group name

load more comments
view more: next ›