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https://www.wired.com/story/tech-bros-dating-palantir-tesla/

When 28-year-old Helen was an undergraduate at Stanford from 2016 to 2020, she viewed men in tech as guys who “stay up late and maybe have bad hygiene.” But her feelings toward them have gotten even worse over time as she’s questioned the industry’s overall impact.

Helen’s family is from the Tigray region of Ethiopia, whose population, beginning in 2020, was subjected to a prolonged period of human rights abuses. “When I started thinking about questions around genocide and the technology that kills or tracks or excludes,” Helen says, “I realized that the things these people are building are secretly, or under the surface, really nefarious, and I could not personally be with someone who is a puzzle piece in that tapestry.”

Helen herself has worked in tech. Soon after graduating from college, she accepted a job at Grammarly. But after about a year, she went to work for a mutual-aid platform and now is employed at an impact investing firm funding technology for underserved communities. Similarly, Sasha, a 31-year-old Oakland resident, had a brief stint working in AI before heading to a sustainability-focused tech company, where she is now chief of staff. In dating, when she meets someone who works or wants to work in AI, she wonders, “Does that mean that we have the same values in terms of climate and sustainability and thinking about human rights?”

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[–] christian@hexbear.net 19 points 16 hours ago

This headline is very unfair, crying because no one wants to date you is a lot more relatable than what tech bros are actually doing.

[–] robot_dog_with_gun@hexbear.net 23 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

they can't get dates, meanwhile ethan klein (briefly) managed a wife and mistress

[–] DoofusAscendant@hexbear.net 6 points 13 hours ago

Those women presumably thought he was funny, which is a positive quality not shared by tech bros.

[–] SoyViking@hexbear.net 56 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

she went to work for a mutual-aid platform and now is employed at an impact investing firm funding technology for underserved communities

heading to a sustainability-focused tech company, where she is now chief of staff

These are not real jobs that real people can have.

[–] senseamidmadness@lemmygrad.ml 30 points 18 hours ago

Bullshit Jobs is one of those books that has aged like fine wine

[–] barrbaric@hexbear.net 53 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

Helen herself has worked in tech. Soon after graduating from college, she accepted a job at Grammarly. But after about a year, she went to work for a mutual-aid platform and now is employed at an impact investing firm funding technology for underserved communities.

So more scam shit then.

[–] mrfugu@hexbear.net 17 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I’m assuming this is one of those scenarios where it’s like

“hmm we have all this money to help people in need. Should we start a food bank? or a free clinic? no certainty not! There’s no ROI! We need investment opportunities people! They don’t have to make us filthy rich like they normally do but god they can’t just be actually charity!!”

[–] SocialistVibes01@lemmy.ml 14 points 13 hours ago

There's also a bad smell of ngos often weaponized against overseas welfare policies in progressive disguise around many places in the world

[–] chgxvjh@hexbear.net 41 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

If you think about it loan sharks are also financial firms for underserved communities.

[–] plinky@hexbear.net 20 points 15 hours ago

thats called microfinancing, sweetie, and somehow everyone involved get to be a billionaire with humanistic flair

[–] tactical_trans_karen@hexbear.net 29 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Why don't they just date AI if it's so good?

[–] robot_dog_with_gun@hexbear.net 22 points 21 hours ago

didn't one of the main places for that just file for bankruptcy a couple months ago?

[–] came_apart_at_Kmart@hexbear.net 31 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I could not personally be with someone who is a puzzle piece in that tapestry.

damn, helen talks like i wish I could write.

[–] Orcocracy@hexbear.net 55 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago) (2 children)

I am unreasonably distracted by this shitty mixed metaphor. I’ve totally forgotten everything else this article is about and all I can think of is tapestries somehow being made of fucking puzzle pieces.

[–] came_apart_at_Kmart@hexbear.net 12 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

i dig it. like rather than a person being woven into a collective effort with intention and skill, it's abruptly snapped in like any drunk toddler crawling by could do.

[–] TreadOnMe@hexbear.net 11 points 13 hours ago

If only it was intentional.

[–] casskaydee@hexbear.net 30 points 23 hours ago

It's a real fly in the armor.. or wait is it a removed in the ointment?

[–] bobs_guns@lemmygrad.ml 23 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

This is the sort of thing that happens when you spend too much time working on distributed systems

[–] senseamidmadness@lemmygrad.ml 17 points 18 hours ago

Those TPS reports will really scramble your brain too.

[–] microfiche@hexbear.net 28 points 1 day ago
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