Gotta drop your standards
this post was submitted on 31 Jul 2025
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You're in the right place but may have the wrong attitude. Just remember: everyone you deem beneath you forgets about you the second they're underneath someone else.
Grindr.
Sick burn but srsly if a cis-sy comes to us with a broken cock, contrite spirit, and a willingness to retake the annual consent training course (including the entire addendum specifically for cis het men), we could identify the flaws in his game in less time than (in another universe) we could drain his ***** in the ********.
isnt that what tinder is for?
If you're not able to go out and get some ass in the next 48 hours from a stranger, then you should probably not be replying with advice. For better or for worse, op is looking for a quick shag. Telling him to go to the library or church to find a gentle and kind lover who will appreciate him for his personality is not what is being asked for.
Son wants to clap some cheeks and wants to know where he can find a population of the sort of women who wants to get they cheeks clapped without a lot of questions.
I don't know if it is a realistic request, but thats what he asked.
Straight talker! Upper management written all over 'em.
If it was realistic for op he probably wouldn't have to ask
You don't know that
Hence why I hedged my statement with 'probably'.
This comment was adressed at other people giving advice, not for OP.
I agree and disagree at the same time. Bars/clubs/etc can be good for quick hookups. Social hobbies can lay groundwork for much greater depths of sustained sluttery.
Lower your standards and close down some bars.
Honestly, one doesn't really have to have low standards when taking that approach. Just go to bars that fit one's vibe and talk to people, and don't be judgemental on superficial things. Either it'll click with someone or not.
To be fair, it does help if one finds the majority of people of their preferred gender(s) to have something beautiful about them.
And being a bit of a slut. I can state from personal experience that that helps. Embrace your inner slut (ethically).
This is the way
Sorry, you've pegged the three main ways of finding girls who want to bang quick - online, in bars or clubs, and plunking down some cash. There is no magical place where there are an excess number of sexy, horny women looking to hook up with an average guy - that is a fantasy.
The reality is, you simply must beat out your competition.
Online, that means having good (ie, excellent) pictures and paying money to the apps.
IRL, it means having a good personality, being able to hold a conversation and flirt well, and being able to handle a lot of rejection to your face.
In both cases, it means dressing and grooming yourself both well and with a distinctive style, looking healthy and athletic, and playing the numbers game.
Straight up: if you are not at least adequate in all these respects, literally all you have to do is get to work. Asking more questions isn't as important as straightening out your diet, hitting the gym, hitting the mall, hiring a photographer, and talking to as many people as you possibly can until you are comfortable and confident talking to strangers.
This is, admittedly, an absolute shit ton of work. But it is the way to regularly get girls to want to hook up with you. No shortcuts - just be better.
*One footnote - if you do not live in a major metro area or college town, your success rate will drop dramatically simply due to demographics. Women in general, and especially women who are open to hooking up, tend to congregate to these areas. You aren't gonna get much poon in a north dakota oil field, brochahco.
git gud
OP - read a different comment.
Get a kinky hobby and then join your local community. For me it was bondage. Go to meetings, get to know people (emphasis on people). When you pass the vibe check you should get invited to parties. During all this you should be able to get to know enough people who are DTF.
Well first of all through God all things are possible so jot that down.
OP wants to put God through a mattress
I have to put my penis inside God and go through him to stick my penis inside women???
Dude.
You overestimate the size of my penis. It is NOT 4 feet long!
Maybe you're supposed to put your dick in God then puppet God around to fuck the women with God's dick
Shut up Mac
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Mandatory cartoon instructions
Boomhauer Teaches Bobby How To Pick Up Women
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N7FVmeJXwCY
I hate that it works, but it definitely does.
This was great thank you lmao
There was a guy with an awfully similar name to you, asking awfully similar questions.
I'm not trying to out you if you're actually the same guy trying to get around a ban, but if you are, why pick such a similar name? It's bordering on suspicious - picking an explicitly religious name then posting about prostitutes.
If this is coincidence, and you're a completely different guy with a similar name posting about a similar topic within the space of a week, I apologise - and I don't want to freak you out too much, but you may have a doppelganger.
Seeing this account with the same posts gives me bot vibes.
This question is kinda like asking what's the easiest way to get rich quick?
- Easy
- Rich
- Quick
Pick 2
Can I get easy quick
Sup
Go to a bar, look for a group of people. Find the chubby, not great looking girl/guy….profit.
Oh I was going to suggest Mouser and DIgikey for most kinds of electrical stuff, but it sounds like you are after something different.
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Step 1: be attractive. Step 2: be attractive.
If you want quick heterosexual sex woth a woman without paying you'll need to be attractive, that's about it.
Now, if you were gay things would be easier.
You also need to be a bit more socially aware.
I've had many people tell me I'm attractive, yet at the same time I turned down coffee because it was the evening and I was trying to watch my caffeine intake. During my late school years someone sat next to me as I was eating Lucky Charms with chocolate milk, and said she loves chocolate after sex. My reaction? "Oh, I can only imagine! I quite like the combination with the marshmallows, as they absorb some of the taste. You see..."
Just a couple examples, though honestly it would be nice to have some sort of guidebook on these things. I swear I've missed a million and a half opportunities, only to be woken up from my sleep a year later all "MOTHERFUCKER".
Step 1: be funny, or witty, or share common interests, or kind, or have good hygiene
Source: am not very attractive, got very laid.
I guess I still do, since I'm married. But the requirements have changed slightly. Now it's more about listening and helping and being emotionally available.
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if you were gay things would be easier.
If you don't have standards, maybe …
Gays looking for a hookup are some of the most superficial and demanding dating pool members. Dudes looking like the Penguin on Batman Returns will demand Adonis or infant looking twinks and nothing else. It's very hard and very rare to find people actually willing to give a chance to non-hegemonic looking guys.
gay porn also pretty much ruined gay peoples expectation. its either twinks, daddies, buff guys, or abs,,,etc.
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Are you the same guy who was struggling on here a while ago?
spoiler
Yes.
The easiest thing to do is make friends with plenty of people IRL through a shared hobby or interest. Those that are interested in being FWB will make themselves apparent over time. Just be honest and when appropriate, let people know you're DTF, but not looking for anything more than sex right now.
There aren't many people not looking for long term monogomous committed relationships. There might even be none in your area depending on your age and other factors. But that's the best advice I can give on the matter.
EDIT: I know you said dating apps and IRL aren't working for you right now, but honestly, there really are only two places to find people: online and IRL, so my advice still stands.
Get interested in the world around you in some way and then meet up with others with those same interests.
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