Fetlife. If you want friends, why not have kinky sex with them?
this post was submitted on 02 Sep 2025
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I also work from home and have friends at work. I keep up with them. My non-work friends are just people I know from a hockey blog. I have a half dozen of them. Other than that it's my wife and my extended family.
I find that I'm pretty lonely, but I have learned to handle it. I have a bit of social anxiety so I enjoy being at home. I am also depressed, so I try to force myself to do things with family that I otherwise wouldn't do.
If I had none of these people, I would probably be a lot worse with my mental health. But as others have said, to make friends anymore you must actively try to do it. That is unusual for people our age (I'm 41), but we have to learn.
Being from a rural area, I know how unenlightened people from there can be. I hope that you can be yourself while out in public without incident.
I feel you.
I have a group chat with a few friends from high school, and we get together once or twice a year, but other than them, it's just my wife and I hanging out at home. We're both introverted and love being together, but we both get bored of doing the same stuff all the time.
We are also in a very rural location, so there aren't a lot of options to get out and do something, without it being a major ordeal.
Im married so im mostly going through the motions for my wife. Not sure what I would do if she passed away.
You have work colleagues? Have you tried making friends with any of them?
Have you tried doing *anything * to make friends in any capacity? Friends don’t just drop in your lap while you sit at home.
Also when you say your family and friends all disowned you, was there perhaps also an element of you disowning them over ideological disagreements even if some of them still wanted to remain friends?
Active disdain for everyone except my family