Failure is just part of the game my friend. Like all experiences it shapes who we are as a person. I'd even argue we are shaped more by our failures than our successes. Focus on recovering from the failure. Decide if you want to try again with a different approach or if you should just stop. Knowing when to quit is a skill most folks underestimate. Sometimes things are just not meant to be and knowing when to quit keeps you from wasting your time trying again and again.
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Most of the time I really enjoy being alive, beyond that there is no failure.
If you’re not failing, you’re never learning. If you succeeded at everything in life, why would you need to learn anything? Learning things is what makes us human. And thumbs.
"Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you want."
-My fortune cookie
I read a book for a bit and pet my cat.
Eliminate all the shit that drags you down. This is what I did
- Cut my shitty toxic family out of my life.
- Cut all shitty toxic people out of my personal life, doing that for your professional life is much harder.
- Stopped smoking pot and taking other intoxicants daily.
- Stopped eating bad food and sStarted exercising regularly; this really helped my sleep schedule.
- Quit smoking cigarettes… holy fuck that habit drags you down.
I don't. I embrace it, learn from it, beat myself up for it and try to do better.
How do you embrace something that hurts you?
Avoiding the pain and humiliation doesn't make it go away. Realize that by doing that it will be with you the rest of your life.
The only way to make it fade is to face it, embrace it, admit it, and experience it, with an eye toward learning from it. Then, you can put it behind you. Your mind is trying to do the right thing for you, that's why it's nagging you to face it.
You do it by stopping resisting.
A failure, or mistake, is only a mistake if you dont learn from it!
Read up on "equanimity". It's been a thing for thousands of years. Lots of mediation, buddhist, Taoist traditions etc cover it.
Ask porcupine lovers.
I take notes and have discussions with my partners; often we try to diagnose what may have happened, and try to make them lessons-learned from future endeavors.