I'm in my 40s, and have only ever dated within 1 month of my age.
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I don't really see what I've got in common with anyone outside of myage ±10 years. That being said I've got more important priorities than age.
No one. People of any age creep me out when I think about dating them.
If they are significantly older, I think it's like dating one of my parents.
If they are a lot younger, it seems like dating someone who could be my child (if I had one).
If they are within a decade or so of my age, it would be like dating one of my siblings.
Half your age plus 7 is an okay rule for finding the floor. Don't aim for the floor. Plus 10 is less eyebrow raising.
Dave Chappell iirc
The Muslims say that the right age for a couple is the wife is half the husband's age, plus seven years.
In Hollywood, it's half the husband's age, minus seven
My dad is 98 and he started dating an 82-year-old. It seems to be going really well. She can't drive and he still does so that probably increased his appeal.
Is he still mentally fit to drive at 98? Damn that's impressive. You've got some good genes.
of course not. doesnt stop old people though
when I was 39, I dated someone that was 23. Never again. If I were to date again, 10 years older or younger would probably be my limit. Ideally, 5 years would probably be the best dating pool.
I used that formula to half-jokingly look for a partner on my blog. And it worked. I was 22 and she was 27. "So old!" I thought back then. Didn't help that she sent me a really ugly blurry photo. Still, I was desperate and liked our conversations.
Now we're married and laugh about that "huge age gap".
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My wife is almost 9 years younger than me. We've been together for almost 20 years. 50 and 42.
My wife's age, down to the second.
When I was 14 other 14year olds interested me, now I know a few that age because they go to school with my kids, but even if I was single they are too immature. About 22 they are mature enough I might consider but overall I'm glad I'm married and don't have to worry about it
Your wife flies in a rocket ship near the speed of light on a round trip to Alpha Centauri.
If I understand your meaning, your dating age range would change as you communicated over the 9ish years of her trip.
Youngest: A mayfly, born this morning and destined to die this evening, which landed on my nose.
Oldest: A mountain with ancient bones, eroded by the aeons to a mere hill with sides of crumbling rock.
Oh you mean humans? Well, anyone between the ages of 47 and 52 I guess.
Meme in question:
I know someone who was 70 and married a 35 year old. she's the same age as his oldest daughter. they had kids and the and grand kids are the same age
another person I know with a similar age gap. his wife is leaving him now after some 25 years of marriage. she said he's too old for her
Between Age/2+7 and Age*2-14
This
Youngest: at least my age, but eh.
Oldest: I prefer older women. Always have and always will.
I'm currently married, so none on either end.