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I doubt whether animals really understand this.
Not in the way you're thinking of ("my human loves me!"), but they almost certainly understand it as a form of scent-marking ("we are tribe-family"), which is a pretty similar concept.
it seems to be on a level of intimacy to me that I find weird sharing with a pet.
Have you had (m)any pets?
Idk about all pets but dogs absolutely understand it’s a form of affection, they kiss each other too, they’ve been with humans tens of thousands of years… they get it
Cat's are super social and very smart. They get it too. Hell, even budgies understand it.
Gossiping, and the inevitable culture of "what will people say?" that comes along with it. I don't really talk about other people when they're not there. And it's really weird when someone introduces you to a new person and they're like "I've heard so much about you". It almost sounds threatening.
Having kids. I just don't get it.
Huh. That's an odd one. We are all here because someone had kids, you grew up with people who had kids, it's a funny thing to not understand. I always wanted kids but can wrap my mind around people not wanting them, feel everyone should live their lives the way they want & most of my kids don't themselves want kids (though they all like kids, they just each want one of their siblings to give them nieces).
Raising kids is by far the best work I ever did, and babies are cute, little children are delightful, teenagers are cool, and now as adults they are awesome.
Out of curiosity, what's not to get? It's a biological imperative for the human race to continue. I can absolutely get not wanting kids and choosing to be 'child free', but it's personally not that difficult to understand why people chose to have them.
But I'm not controlled by my biology.
I can be hungry and choose not to eat. I understand the need for reproduction on a species level, but from my point of view having children looks like peer pressure and Stockholm syndrome. There is no upside for the individual.
I will say anecdotally, my wife has aggressively kissed my dog since she was a puppy. The dog aldo knows we don't like face licks and will boop my wife on the cheek with her nose repeatedly.
And to answer your question, people are into what they're into, I just don't get feet.
My personal goal is to give my dog 1 million kisses in his lifetime because I know he'll only be around for 10-15 years. It sounds like you've never had a pet or an animal rely on you and I'm sorry for that/I find that weird 🤷🏽♀️
As an introvert, most things that extroverts do are strange. I want nothing more than to go home during the course of a normal work day. Extroverts love to go back out and socialize more. No thanks.
You can't help it when an animal snuggles you! You just can't deny them the love!! 💖
So many things:
That's all that comes to mind at the moment, but I know I've felt that way about many other behaviors. I'll try to remember to add any others that come to mind in an edit below.
Shoes inside works fine if you wipe your feet thoroughly on the doormat.
Other than making some sort of vegan statement, what I find really weird is when people start talking to you in the grocery line.
Like, how are you happy to be there? I just want to get in, get my stuff, and get out. Socializing is super awkward at the best of times, so inviting it in that setting just feels weird to me. I have a buddy who always strikes up conversation with strangers, it's awkward shopping with him.
I genuinely struggle to understand this weird social game people play on platforms like Lemmy, where they seem eager to engage with content they don't even like or that pisses them off. It's like joining a bicycle forum only to find out everyone mostly just spends their time there shitting on tricycles.
It's unbelievably bizarre to watch the back-and-forth: someone posts something that reinforces the negative parts of their worldview, then people rush into the comments to signal they think exactly the same way everyone else here does, get showered with upvotes for saying what people want to hear, and that incentivizes them to keep doing it. Meanwhile everyone else sees that as long as you make the right noises, you get to feel included in our little tribe - whose only real common ground is mutual hatred of the outgroup.
I can understand it from an anthropological point of view. We're social primates and this kind of status game is what we do. But it's incredibly difficult for me to put myself in any individual's shoes and figure out how they're seemingly oblivious to the pattern. When I scroll through some people's post histories, that's literally all they do, and it's so fucking weird to me.
I've always found tattoos a bit strange. Not that they bother me in any way - quite the contrary - I just could never really understand why someone would get a name, a quote, a picture, or whatever permanently inked on their skin.
So, I'm not into words or images from pop culture etc. (that's just my taste, I think people should get what they like regardless) but I have three larger pieces on me. All three are original artwork by the artist, I gave them an idea of the general imagery/vibe I was going for and then handed them the reins. Also chose someone who's dominant art style correlated with the style I wanted. I love art and it makes me happy to carry beautiful and original artwork with me wherever I go.
