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Whenever I tell someone that I wish i was shorter, they are always taken a back(being masculine presenting). I am just over 6 ft, in my country, that's a bit above average height. Its not like I am a gaint or anything but I am always aware how intimidating I look. Also, the country where I live doesn't feel like it build for people my size. Mini-van for transportation that squish my knees, ceiling that are a bit too low for my taste, showers space that's too small.

But also, I feel like a bumbling idiot (I suspect I have Dysprixa) and hate standing out so much. I may have Body dysmorphia. Its like how I would like to be seen and how I feel, are the exact opposite to how I seen. I feel small, soft, in a relationship, I would prefer to take on the "feminine " role. I feel nothing like a man.

Anyone else relates to this.

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[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

I'm 194cm (6'3") and my God do I wish I were a bit shorter. I would fit a lot more places, my back wouldn't hurt doing the dishes from bending over, my feet wouldn't hang off my bed and get cold all the time.

[–] SaveTheTuaHawk@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 month ago

6"3" and yes, Clothes, shoes hard to find and airplanes are shrinking.

[–] bunkyprewster@startrek.website 2 points 1 month ago

I'm very average height, 5' 10" in hamburger units, 178 cm. But I grew about an inch, in the first year at university, to my current height, and to be honest have often felt a little"too big" ever since.

[–] Mac@mander.xyz 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

YES, ALL THE TIME.

I'm ~6'1" with a long waist and it's pretty ass.

[–] JoeBigelow@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

What's a long waist? Isn't it like kind of a point/line not a line/plane

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

Like more vertical height in torso, not just long legs. Lots of room between crotch and natural waist. I am like that, but tall clothing seems to think tall women are short women on stilts. I do not need more inseam, I need higher rise because I'm long waisted.

[–] too_high_for_this@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm 6'3" / 190 cm and I would love to be just a little shorter. My back and knees aren't having fun anymore.

[–] Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

Mate I'm 195 I just wanna be able to buy pants and shoes normally again🥺

[–] DisasterTransport@startrek.website 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

6'0" here, so not that tall. For me there's a small component of wishing to be more a little more feminine sometimes, but all things considered being a big strong man rules.

I wish i were slightly shorter because this world is built for average sized people. Flying always winds up being an exercise in quantifying the value of my own suffering. Is 4-8 hours of claustrophobia, leg cramps, and general lack of dignity worth an extra $400? Sometimes, absolutely. Do i have an extra $400? hell no. I don't even fly that often and i have strong preferences for aircraft. I will cry if i wind up getting tricked into economy class on a 737-800 again. The seats are 16 inches wide and i think the pitch is something like 28".

I also can't comfortably sit in a miata unless the top is down. I daily drove an AW11 for a couple of years and while it was tons of fun i looked like Mr Incredible driving to work and I hit my head constantly. Kitchen counters are way too short for me, i can't imagine the back pain for taller people who like to cook.

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 month ago

Slightly over the average here but within 5cm, feels like a decent height. Most doorways don't pose a risk of head injury.

[–] InternationalHermit@lemmy.today 1 points 1 month ago

I am 6 feet tall male and while I don’t feel particularly tall, I am still slightly taller than the statistical average American male, making it rather inconvenient. Clothes are too short, cars and power equipment is too short, bed is too short, tables, chairs and countertops are too short, ceilings are too short…

[–] devolution@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Average height guy here. Nope never shorter. Yep. Wanted to be taller.

I'm 5'10 or 70 inches tall. Being average makes you kinda invisible.

[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Kind fit. 6’3” here. Most of my life I was just enough taller than average to be uncomfortable, but normal in my family.

But now it’s more than uncomfortable. My knees are shot, making it hard to get in and out of cars. Of all things using the bathroom sink hurts my back because “standard height” is too low. Mostly work though, sitting in chairs that won’t adjust properly.

Then again, some of that is because I’m also big. I can’t really blame anyone other than me for that

But yeah, tall white dude definitely benefits

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

I'm 6' 8" and wish I had met a giantess in my youth...

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