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[–] TxzK@lemmy.zip 4 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

They might be a hater, but they're not a bigot. Respect lol

[–] Alaik@lemmy.zip 2 points 6 months ago

Reminds me of that post about two lesbians kissing on a subway in NY and this dude says, 'Man can't yall keep that nasty shit at home?"

And when we sees people are staring at him, he goes, "OH no I'm not homophobic, I'm just a hater."

[–] Stamets@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

Basically me. I cannot stand Elliots acting personally but like I like/dislike a lot of stuff no one else does so whatever. Always disliked him since the Juno days. But I dislike HIM.

TERF haters are dumb as fuck. What's the point of hating someone if you're hating something you made up about them? Congratulations, you're deluded. Might as well hate Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind because it had a cameo from Jeffrey Epstein, you lobotomized twatwaffle.

[–] bamboo@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 6 months ago

I haven't seen a lot of his movies, but I thought his acting in the first season of Umbrella Academy was really good. To each their own I guess.

[–] Impleader@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

it had a cameo from Jeffrey Epstein

Wait what?

[–] Stamets@lemmy.world 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (3 children)

What's the point of hating [...] if you're hating something you made up [...] ?

Might as well hate Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind because it had a cameo from Jeffrey Epstein

My text wasn't super clear but I was saying that people who make shit up about things and then hate it for that reason are silly. I then made up a ridiculous thing about a great movie. A movie I refuse to ever watch again but still.

[–] sartalon@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Fucking Kevin Spacey. So many great movies I just can't watch anymore.

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[–] Impleader@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago

Oh, I thought you meant the movie actually had an Epstein cameo and I somehow never noticed lol

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

A movie I refuse to ever watch again but still.

Oh, I'm not the only one who can't watch Eternal Sunshine again? Used to be one of my favorite films...

Crazy how things can be tied so strongly to memories... Particularly when it's a poignant piece of art that is far too relatable. Charlie Kaufman is a genius.

[–] Stamets@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Immediately after finishing it I knew I'd never watch it again. Same thing with We Need To Talk About Kevin or Dear Zachary. That last one is a documentary about where I'm from but still. Somethings you only need to see once. Anything more than that is pain. That's how Eternal Sunshine came out for me. Beautiful in its tragedy but the beauty comes from the pain. I deal with my own stuff as is. Watching movies like that a second time causes me so much anxiety and grief.

[–] AreaSIX@lemm.ee 1 points 6 months ago

"The act of killing" plays that role for me. The most amazing movie I have ever watched, but I've just been able to watch it a handful of times. Haven't gathered the courage to watch the follow up, "The look of silence" yet.

[–] BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I watched Dear Zachary twice. No tears.

[–] Stamets@lemmy.world 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago

Although, it might bother me now, as a father. I have finally acquired the ability of empathy in my late thirties.

[–] josefo@leminal.space 4 points 6 months ago (2 children)
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[–] svcg@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 6 months ago (2 children)

They're already casting for Christopher Nolan's The Odyssey? I didn't even know they'd done Christopher Nolan's The Iliad yet!

[–] BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

We already have a film adaptation of The Odyssey. Oh Brother, Where Art Thou?

[–] NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone 1 points 6 months ago

Can’t wait for him to complete the trilogy with The Aeneid.

[–] marte@lemmy.eco.br 2 points 6 months ago (2 children)

I'm here for more inclusive hate

[–] ZeffSyde@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

Back in the 90s, the joke was, "I'm an equal opportunity hater, I hate everyone!'

[–] D_C@lemm.ee 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Sorry, you're not included.
I hope you have a great super fun day.

[–] marte@lemmy.eco.br 1 points 6 months ago

Now I'm offended, guess I asked for it though

[–] BomberMan9865@sh.itjust.works 1 points 6 months ago

Hate someone for being a bad actor or a bad person but don't attack based on gender identity. That isn't attacking them, it's marginalizing many many innocent people, and it makes them a victim.

[–] cupcakezealot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

i don't have anything to say about the movie since i have no idea what it's about.

but i will say, i SO want elliot to do another series of gaycation because i loved it so much and it'd be great to revisit or plan out more places (except sadly it might be even more dangerous with the increase in homophobia around the world :()

[–] alekwithak@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago

You don't know what The Odyssey is about?

[–] tetris11@lemmy.ml 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

oh weird, I'm somewhat opposite -- not a fan of the person themselves and the fame circle surrounding them, but I think they're a decent actor with a good sense of subtlety and pathos.

Same with Tom Cruise. Could not give a shit about the person IRL, but very good actor.

[–] friendlymessage@feddit.org 2 points 6 months ago (2 children)

I know they/them seems inclusive, but Page goes by he/him. He's trans not non-binary

[–] will_steal_your_username@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Every source I find has him saying he uses he/they, so they is perfectly acceptable

[–] friendlymessage@feddit.org 2 points 6 months ago

Ah, okay, then I'm mistaken. I just saw that Wikipedia goes by he/him.

[–] tetris11@lemmy.ml 0 points 6 months ago (2 children)

sorry. I think I was referring to his work back before he transitioned too

[–] friendlymessage@feddit.org 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Usually you would go with the current pronouns too even when talking about anything happening before the outing. But apparently they isn't wrong anyway, I was mistaken

[–] tetris11@lemmy.ml 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

because they were always the same person on the inside, right I get. It's a bit of verbal minefield, but I'm slowly getting there

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[–] bobs_monkey@lemm.ee 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Shit I find Tom Cruise to be an abhorrent person, but I do love me some Mission Impossible.

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

Shit I find Tom Cruise to be an abhorrent person,

How is he an abhorrent person? I mean, beyond shilling for Scientology, which is itself abhorrent...

Everyone I've ever heard describe Tom Cruise as a person has only had nice things to say about him. Like to a weird/suspicious extent even lol.

Like he sends people delicious cakes in the mail and shit.

[–] tetris11@lemmy.ml 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Google "katie holmes disposable cellphone"

[–] mossy_@lemmy.world 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

He's... had a divorce? I guess that's not great but hardly enough to make him look like an asshole

[–] tetris11@lemmy.ml 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

I dont think you googled the right thing. Try the parts where he tried to have his then wife under control by refusing to let her freely use her cellphone

[–] mossy_@lemmy.world 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

I don't think you googled the right thing

I literally searched using the keywords you said to... Didn't use google though. next time can you just say the message you want to convey?

[–] tetris11@lemmy.ml 1 points 6 months ago
[–] threeduck@aussie.zone 1 points 6 months ago

He's a poster child for a literal cult. The Mrs and I make a point of never watching or paying for anything he's in. If everyone did that, no director would cast him and he might just leave the cult (or no longer be as powerful a figure).

[–] jsomae@lemmy.ml 0 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

I didn't like his book, either. He comes off as weird, like red flags weird. If you want a gripping memoir by a trans person, I suggest README.TXT by Chelsea Manning, great book.

[–] YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 1 points 6 months ago

Care to share some of those flags with us?

[–] Zenith@lemm.ee 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Idc who you are getting ab implants id weird and gross

[–] phlegmy@sh.itjust.works 1 points 6 months ago

Body dysmorphia comes in many forms.
What people do to their own body is none of my business.

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