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Is catching a beating a lesser crime than rape? or murder like Mathew Broderick did while driving drunk?

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[–] ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net 13 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Polanski admitted raping a child and still worked without any issues for decades. Top actors didn't see any issues in working with him and he even won an Oscar. Why? I have no idea.

People totally ignored all the creepy things Micheal Jackson did because his songs were so good.

Woody Allen had to do some explaining but wasn't canceled.

Chris Brown is still getting to the top of Billboards 200.

It's not a simple "guilty/not-guilty" issue. It's a mix of how much money you have, how much money you can still make (how loyal is your fan base and what do they care about) and how good PR team do you have.

[–] BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Polanski had plenty of issues, including that he could never come to America, which is a liability when you are trying to make movies within the Hollywood system. He found people to work with, but we don't hear about all those that refused to work with him, and I'm sure there were plenty. He managed to have a decent career, but to say he had no issues at all simply isn't accurate.

Michael Jackson's allegations are tough. I've been a big fan all my life, I seen all the allegations and evidence, and I'm still on the fence.

Woody Allen is definitely a weird guy, but I looked into those allegations, too, and there are a lot of problems with them. Family dynamics can be complicated, dramatic, and toxic, and that could explain this. Woody being such a bizarre character makes it easy for others to believe bad stuff. Or maybe it's true. Without a court case, evidence, witnesses, etc., it's impossible to know.

Chris Brown's guilt as a serious abuser is proven. Perhaps his continued popularity is due to his reputation. Even Domestic Abusers need tunes, and he's their man.

[–] BCsven@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

Did you see the MJ documentary where the kid (now adult) and his family came forward to tell what happened?
Even if you thought the info about MJ masturbating to the kid bent over is fake for some reason, the provable logistics are consistent with a grooming pedophile.

Flatter the kid, promise him fame, same with family. Pay for their trips to be with you on tour. Book kid into same room as MJ, but book parents on a different floor or other end of building. Etc

[–] BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 1 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah, I know, but I also know that at least some of the allegations really looked suspicious, too. I wrestle with it to this day. It's hard to see your heros fall. I was a huge fan, my entire life.

[–] BCsven@lemmy.ca 1 points 16 hours ago

I mean it's like Bill Cosby who played the Wholesome dad, and did Jello Pudding Pop commercials, then revealed he's a young girl drug and rape guy. It sucks but people can be monsters beyond the facade. Fame gives a privilidge that seems a lot of people take advantage of.

[–] ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

He managed to have a decent career

Dude, he won an Oscar in 2003. Best Director. Calling this "decent" career is extremely disingenuous. He worked with Jodie Foster, Kate Winslet, Christoph Waltz, Ewan McGregor and Johnny Depp. All at the top of their careers, very much able to decide who they want to work with and they worked with him. He is still well respected in Poland and France and many different governments protected him from prosecution. When US tried to detain him Polish government ignored the laws to shield him.

With Woody Allen I'm taking about him marrying his step daughter, not the unconfirmed allegations.

[–] BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 1 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah, he won an Oscar, and it was incredibly controversial, and it was one of the things that started the conversation that eventually led to the Me Too movement. For the first time, Hollywood women let their outrage be seen and heard, and that kind of mysogyny in Hollywood began to meet resistance.

Again, I would not say that Polanski has had "no issues" in his career. I don't see Speilberg or Scorcese having to defend 50+ year old scandals literally every time their names are mentioned.

[–] ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net 1 points 17 hours ago

Me Too movement started after Harvey Weinstein scandal, over a decade after Polanski got his Oscar. I don't remember any controversies around The Pianist. The wiki doesn't mention anything. It got great reviews and got a lot of awards: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_accolades_received_by_The_Pianist

You're either making stuff up now or just misremembering it. Polanski is an admitted rapist. Of course he didn't have same career as Spielberg or Scorsese but he wasn't a pariah either. He worked all his life and was well respected in the industry. I don't know, maybe you just want to believe that Polanski faced some consequences. He didn't. He wasn't punished. There was no justice there. He raped a child and lived a happy life after that.

[–] BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I know people who are plugged into film studies, academia, etc., and there is definitely a bias against him, and his legacy will be stained. You can point to as many stars as you want, but you will never know how many turned him down.

She wasn't his step-daughter. He wasn't married to Mia Farrow, and she wasn't a biological daughter to Mia, either. Still gross, but technically, y'know?

[–] ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm just saying that many directors would kill to have a career like him and he admitted to rape. Could he achieve more if he didn't rape a child and was allowed entry into US? Maybe but it's really hard to argue he was punished by the industry.

Both him and Woddy simply show that some people can get away with things others can't. Depends on the factors I mentioned.

[–] BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 1 points 18 hours ago

There is no doubt that his fame and talent bought him a LOT of sanctuary, but it definitely indelibly stained his legacy. We'll never know how much more he could have achieved, but looking back, he would have been better off serving the couple of years in jail, and moved on with his life. He'd still have that old stain, but it would be mostly forgiven as a youthful slip, blame it on drugs, and the times, and it would be overlooked for the most part. But he would have been welcomed back to Hollywood, and would have have had full access to the Hollywood system.

[–] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 25 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (5 children)

When Wahlberg assaulted people when he as 15 and 16 years old. That doesn't excuse the behavior, but 15/16 year olds aren't adults with fully formed brains. Wahlberg also went to the police and claimed responsibility for the attack. He then plead guilty in court and served time. It still bothers me how racially motivated it was and for that I would personally always have disdain for Wahlberg.

Cosby was 28 years old for his first time of rape allegations. There would be more than a dozen other women that came forward with reports. The most recent was Feb of 2000 when Cosby was then 63 years old. Cosby was a fully formed adult doing these horrible acts to women he had power over, and he used that power to abuse them.

Spacy and Weinstein also did their horrible acts as fully formed adults and had a repeated pattern of doing them again and again to people they had power over.

[–] BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Cosby kept doing it, even after it had come to light, and he had been sued multiple times. I read an account by a guy whose job it was to take a bag of cash once a month, and distribute cash payments to Cosby's victims around town. Cosby's downfall was a huge disappointment for me. I had been a huge fan as a kid, buying his albums, and watching his shows.

And Weinstein was another true monster, and so were all those who knew what he was doing, and didn't do anything about it. One female agent said she refused to send female actresses to Weinstein auditions unless it came with a script, and was in a room with multiple people. She refused to send actresses to "private" auditions. But she didn't call the cops, either.

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[–] YoFrodo@lemmy.world 152 points 3 days ago (4 children)

Wahlberg was arrested, charged, and served time (albeit a very little), also his main offense occurred in 1988. Spacey and Weinstein were continuing to offend, and along with Cosby were serial offenders.

So you have a Wahlberg who was a piece of shit as a youth and then (as far as we know) corrected himself and remained hate-crime/assault free for going on nearly 40 years now vs rapists who were active until they were publicly outed.

[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 day ago

https://www.latimes.com/entertainment/gossip/la-et-mg-mark-wahlberg-assault-victim-speaks-out-pardon-20141211-story.html

[Johnny Trinh] said he lost the eye in a 1975 grenade explosion while he was with the South Vietnamese army.

During the assault in Boston, Wahlberg punched Trinh in the eye after first hitting another Vietnamese man in the head with a large stick and hurling racial slurs.

“He was young and reckless but I forgive him now,” said Trinh, who did not know his assailant wound up a famous movie star. “Everyone deserves another chance.”

“I would like to see him get a pardon. He should not have the crime hanging over him any longer.”

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[–] aeronmelon@lemmy.world 80 points 3 days ago (1 children)

There's an appreciable difference between beating up a guy and sexually assaulting many multiple people for decades.

Both are bad, but one is badderer.

[–] faythofdragons@slrpnk.net 19 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Is beating up a guy baddery?

[–] Zier@fedia.io 21 points 3 days ago

Baddery & a salt.

[–] Solumbran@lemmy.world 44 points 3 days ago (26 children)

The fact that you have no scale on how to rank those things is very concerning. Like, wow. You actually do not see the difference between an accident, violence, and rape? Just wow.

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[–] breadsmasher@lemmy.world 25 points 3 days ago (1 children)

i think beating someone up is less vile and disgusting than the other crimes listed

[–] inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago (2 children)
[–] AwesomeLowlander@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

His last incident was almost 25 years ago from the looks of it. And he's since apologised for his actions, sincerely enough for the victim to forgive him. At what point does somebody get away from the mistakes of their past?

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[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I forgot. What charges did Spacey get?

[–] hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world 12 points 3 days ago

Besides all the other things people listed, in law we appreciate that sexual violence is kind of worse than just physical violence, and if there's power dynamics at play and psychological dependency, it gets even more morally apprehensive.

What I'm saying even just the sexual nature makes it worse for me, but of course there's more.

That said, I did not know about what Mark Wahlberg did, and obviously not great.

[–] tate@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 2 days ago (6 children)

Murder has a very specific legal definition. That is not what Matthew Broderick did.

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