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I've worked 2nd (afternoon), swing (evening), and 3rd (overnight) shifts for the majority of my life. I recently moved into a training position where I'm Monday through Friday, 8am to ~5:30pm (I get OT while I'm cleaning up and writing reports).

As much as the 2nd/swing/3rd shifts screw with your life in other ways, the difficulty in scheduling any kind of life services outside of working hours is maddening. Doctor's appointment? Nope. DMV? Maybe Saturday, if you're lucky. Chaperone your kids field trip? Hahahhah no.

I don't want to burn sick time for a doctor's appointment (I need to save those for when my kid is actually sick), and I sure as hell don't want to use up a "vacation" day for it. How tf are you supposed to get anything done?

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[–] GarboDog@lemmy.world 135 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] Shindo66@lemmy.world 21 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Scrolling down to this actually made me burst out with a laugh. Well done.

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[–] Maggoty@lemmy.world 30 points 3 days ago (1 children)

That's the neat part. You don't.

Okay but really, you have to take time off.

[–] potustheplant@feddit.nl 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Also depends on the country you're in. In my case "sick leave" doesn't have a limit. If you're sick or you need to take care of someone who is, you just don't work. There's no day limit.

Also, if you need to go to a bank appointment or something like that, most places will either not even ask you to "recover" those hours or (at worst) you'll just work an extra hour a few days.

[–] agavaa@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

In addition to what you've mentioned, in my country if you have a government job doctor appointments count as work. And works days are 7.75 hours a day in winter and 7 in summer, including lunch.

[–] Flaqueman@sh.itjust.works 243 points 5 days ago (15 children)

You're not supposed to do anything other than generate value. Society doesn't care about your DMV needs. Just work and consume.

[–] Tower@lemmy.zip 175 points 5 days ago (1 children)
[–] EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 22 points 4 days ago

I guess reproduction didn't make the cut, hence the crashing birth rates.

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[–] Custard@lemmy.world 33 points 3 days ago (2 children)

The concept of burning vacation / sick time for a doctor's appointment is weird to me (canada). I just say "hey boss, doc appointment this day" and he says "okay".

I feel like it depends on the company here, but I don't think I'd stay long if they made me use my time off for that.

[–] plutopos@lemmy.zip 18 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Same thing here in Europe. You can then get a special permit from the doctor to show your employer that you were actually at a medical appointment and not smoking weed

[–] Sm0ke@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 3 days ago

This feels personal... I'll have you know I can smoke weed AND go to the doctor.

[–] Aneb@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago

In United States of Shit, you can get a doctor's note to show employers. Most times I'll make an appointment and get the date on a doctors card and show my manager. All unpaid of course

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That's the neat thing, you don't.

[–] leftzero@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 points 3 days ago

We don't. We just exist. And then we die. It's monstrous.

[–] mechoman444@lemmy.world 19 points 3 days ago (1 children)

We don't. We come home around 7 and start doing the bare minimum to keep up the household letting daycares and schools raise our kids.

We clean and cook and pay our bills then we go to sleep irritated and tired and sick of the rat race.

We have sex once or twice a month and go to fucking florida once a year. That's it.

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[–] Sanctus@anarchist.nexus 32 points 4 days ago

Thats the neat part, we dont.

[–] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 115 points 4 days ago
[–] the_abecedarian@piefed.social 100 points 4 days ago (2 children)

that's the point. the capitalists want every minute of your life they can get to work for them, then make you scramble to fit the rest of your life in the gaps. they make more profit and you have less time and energy to educate yourself, think, and organize

[–] bluesheep@sh.itjust.works 59 points 4 days ago (1 children)

A tired worker is an obedient one

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[–] rumba@lemmy.zip 26 points 4 days ago (7 children)

Burn PTO. Already get up at 6 to get the kids off to school, straight to work, straight to dinner, pick one chore until i pass out, get up at 6

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[–] expr@piefed.social 60 points 4 days ago (4 children)

Where I work, they don't really give a shit if you have to go to an appointment or whatever. You just let people know you're going to be out at such and such time and that's it. No micromanaging of time since we're all adults and know what our deadlines and deliverables are. It's a salaried position, though.

If I had no flexibility at all that would definitely be pretty miserable.

[–] frank@sopuli.xyz 22 points 4 days ago

I come from a decade of high flexibility and autonomy. I now have a boss who basically breathes down my neck until the moment i need help, then is a ghost.

The "you have to be sitting at your desk the whole day, every day" thing is fucking insane. I can't believe how much I dislike this job because of it

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[–] Modern_medicine_isnt@lemmy.world 30 points 4 days ago (1 children)

This is why the rich don't understand how the poor "can't work". They have kids yo. And lower end jobs oftenhave very strict hours. But the upper end jobs have lots of flexibility. And the rich of course just don't volunteer at their kids school, or they have a parent home with the kids to do all those things.

[–] Ensign_Crab@lemmy.world 29 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Last month, I was looking for advice for burnout.

The advice I found was inevitably "take a leave of absence from work and get a therapist."

What a sick fucking joke.

[–] MJKee9@lemmy.world 14 points 4 days ago (1 children)

My solution has been THC and exercise. Your mileage may vary.

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[–] drmoose@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago

It could always be worse. In much of Asia the standard work week is still 6 days per week. In China for example it's often 9-9-6 which is 9am to 9pm 6 days per week.

This almost feels intentional though. If you're working all the time you have less time to grow and realize how injust much of the world is.

[–] bss03@infosec.pub 10 points 3 days ago

I communicated with my manager and came in late or left early. I'd usually do dental and medical appointments in the morning, and governmental stuff in the afternoon, but whatever I could schedule.

It helped that I was salaried, so the missing hours didn't affect my take-home pay. But also, I could make up the hours by staying late, if needed.

I know this won't work for everyone, and it would be good to change the system to work for more people.

[–] kilgore_trout@feddit.it 22 points 4 days ago

It doesn't work for anyone. People use up their vacation days.

[–] betanumerus@lemmy.ca 28 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I had a boss tell us we should forget about work-life balance.

[–] DomeGuy@lemmy.world 22 points 4 days ago (1 children)

That's a weird way to pronounce "we're an abusive workplace and I advise you to form a union."

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[–] SuiXi3D@fedia.io 67 points 4 days ago (5 children)

Jobs paid enough so one person could stay home is how it worked. Growing up, dad made all the money and mom stayed home to do chores and whatnot. It’s just how things worked. These days mom’s living off of dad’s retirement fund since he died early and she’s always surprised when I have to ask her for money even though its her generation that made the world what it is. Even when I am able to find work my wife and I are check to check. It’s stupid.

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[–] IronKrill@lemmy.ca 20 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Use up vacation days. Yes, really.

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[–] someguy3@lemmy.world 53 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Nice office jobs you can slip out for doctors appointments, but you kinda sorta still have to make up some of the time.

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[–] lichtmetzger@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I worked in a callcentre for many years and had changing shifts every two weeks. Having to come in at 6am and then getting that switched to 4pm wreaked havoc on my body and after doing this for quite a while, I just crashed and got burnout.

Recovery took me two years, where I basically just slept. Five days a week are just too much, it's a system designed to squeeze the last bit of labor value out of you and I fucking hated it. Nowadays, I'm not able to physically work for more than four days, or else I'll crash again.

I had a lot of luck, so I can now work entirely from home. No commute, Fridays are off. Sounds super cozy and amazing, but the thing is: I need that Friday for myself. A lot of times I'll just sleep so I can have some energy on the actual weekend. 🫩

When it comes to doctor's appointments, I just tell my boss I have one and that's it. As it should be. We are humans, not machines.

I simply do not understand managers/supervisors/companies who do not realize that employees with a good life/work balance are more productive and less likely to leave. And be more expensive to replace.

I have three permanent work from home (but who come into the office for special occasions if they want) three that like to leave the jobs at the office when they go home so prefer to work in the office, and two who are a mix depending on what's going on in their lives (both have young kids and bought houses recently).

My department is the envy of all the other exec managers; there is no gossip, no drama, no dissatisfaction. Like not bragging here, but seriously other departments point at mine and say to their boss "but they get to do that!"

But my gals and guys understand we have so much freedom specifically because we get our shit done and always cover for each other. And as long as that happens, my boss, the owner will continue to let me run my departments however I see fit.

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 20 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I work from home, and I'm paid based on various billable tasks. I work up to three times as fast as they think those tasks should take, and I only really work from 11am-3pm most days.

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[–] HeHoXa@lemmy.zip 17 points 4 days ago (6 children)
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[–] bitchkat@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago

Working from home helps but its also partly why I downsized to a condo a few years ago.

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 13 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I have to beg to be allowed to come in late, just to treat serious health issues. I guess the people with an actual life, are the ones that are born wealthy, or studied to do an easy-going job.

I don't think you are meant to escape with enough hard work, it is punishment for not being a good student in childhood: You get worked like a slave, your entire life, dreams, passions, dignity, all that you are, is pushed aside, as your health is slowly chipped down, until you drop dead in your 40's-50's, no retirement for you.

Then you get some bs eulogy about how you were a good, hardworking man. One of the few times ever that people will even pretend to appreciate you.

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[–] deltapi@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago

Until recently, I had a job where I could leave whenever I wanted so long as there was nothing urgent in motion and I didn't have anything due/overdue.
My office was closed because the CEO thinks that my office's workload can be handled by a team in Philippines using AI translation tools.

[–] sixty@sh.itjust.works 20 points 4 days ago (5 children)

A 9.5 hour work day is insaaane

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[–] bridgeburner@lemmy.world 20 points 4 days ago (2 children)

You don't. That's why I am only working 4 days a week (with respectively reduced pay). But it's worth it, I much rather reduce the money I have available for my free time, but have a much more relaxed work week.

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[–] Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I work 6 to 2. If I need to take a couple hours for a medical, family issue or car appointment, then I let my boss know and he says it's okay. I'm usually able to schedule things so that I put appointments and so on when I don't have big meetings. So long as the work gets done it's cool.

If I'm feeling rotten, I phone in and say I'm either too sick to work or that I'll WFH that day.

Of course, if I have a big vacation planned then I will put in for leave. I get 25 days off a year.

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[–] Unleaded8163@fedia.io 39 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I think there was a time, maybe a few decades ago, when it was entirely acceptable and expected for a full time employee to say "I'm taking off early today, I've got a few errands to run." from time to time. I'm very lucky to be able to do that, but it sounds like it's getting less common.

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[–] ZombieCyborgFromOuterSpace@piefed.ca 35 points 4 days ago (4 children)

Honestly? It's hard. I'd literally kill for a 4 day work week. It's become ridiculous.

My gf and I don't even have kids. I can't even imagine having kids to manage on top.

My weekends I barely have time to socialize or engage in my hobbies or leisure. When I do, my weekend chores overflow on my Monday evening. I'm tired all the fucking time.

It feels like a god damn cage.

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[–] tired_n_bored@lemmy.world 16 points 4 days ago

Doctor's appointments are considered as showing up to work in my country so people don't go undiagnosed for years before it gets worse. Anyways I don't have a life as well. I just do things that are possible to do in the evening (gym, studying, meeting friends). Weekends are for errands. Fuck life

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