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absolutely! I went from 378lbs to 190lbs in just over 2 years and everyone was way nicer. women, (and men), flirted with me. workers in stores offered to help me more often. I got a raise. everyone treated me differently. even long time friends wanted to hang out more often than normal. then life happened, I gained back up to 302lbs. once again, I'm invisible. people rarely talk to me other than just a "good morning". but, I'm back on keto and fasting so soon I'll be back to my former glory.

I had the opposite experience. When I was younger and a very muscular 170 I did ok with women. When I got older and COVID closed my gym I put on a lot of weight, about 240 at my highest, but being older and having figured myself out a lot more I have fewer women turning heads on the street but women I actually talk to were FAR more interested in me.

People have their preferences and I’m sure more people prefer fit partners over not, but often the biggest factor in this change you’ve experienced might not be the weight loss itself, but the confidence it gave you.

Cant tell about women as when i was at my height of around 100kg 175-177cm, overweight, no muscle. There weren't that many women in my environment to accurately gauge any treatment. That was some time before covid.

During that time i lost ~25kg. Down to ~72-73kg and that was the time when thanks to covid client services jobs were starting to suffer and there was influx of women to my field.

No treatment difference from men up until that point.

But as i managed to implement a decent resistance training routine along with diet control over time i packed on muscle mass as well with fat loss.

By now I'm ~83kg, 15-17% bodyfat, clearly muscular even by regular gym goers standard.

That did eventually change treatment from guys.

They became more forgiving, friendly and maybe respectful. I have ADHD, so the amount of mistakes i make hasn't changed, but if previously i was scolded for the same mistakes then now I'm rather easily forgiven and told "no worries, shit happens". In addition any advice i say is heeded actually and people to come up to me more regularly to ask for help

Edit: forgot to add in my wife. While the overall treatment hasn't changed as we have been together for around 14 years, so all body types, from skeleton(~60kg in early adulthood) to overweight to muscular. She is most definitely more attracted and "hornier" now when I'm muscular than other times in our life.

First off, congrats on shedding so much excess mass! Second off, ignore BMI, it is a shit metric.

I lost weight and kind of blossomed in my early 20s, but in my head I was still overweight and awkward, so when I got hit on I had absolutely no clue.

I haven't been skinny since I was a child, so I can't relate. But it would feel very weird if people started noticing me more. I'd probably find it annoying, to be honest. Good job with the weight loss!

Oh yes!

Currently down from 160 to 100kg (350 to 220lbs) and almost everyone is treating me differently. Many people didn't make eye contact with me either on the street or in shops, some were visibly unconfortable (or slightly afraid). I had remarks all the time about how big (not fat, just imposing) I was.

Now cashers smile at me, people on the street are more friendly. It's night and day and it saddens me in a way. I didn't lose weight for appearence reason but for my health, and to see for the first time how people are (were towards me) judgmental is kinda sickening.

I just though people are sometimes a bit cold but never really associated it with my weight.

Went from 130-100kgs(286-220lbs) over about a year so far, still trying to get lower, but it has slowed down. <_<

I personally haven't noticed a different maybe I'm not observant enough.

Congratulations on the weight loss, hope you reach your goal and feel great about your awesome progress.

It was a huge headfuck and made me a little depressed, at first.

Yes, everyone treats me much differently. I get free stuff sometimes. It's wild. And I'm still pretty weird-looking, just minus 90+ pounds, plus a bit of muscle and confidence.

I had a bi friend become really sexually aggressive. And had to rush out of a bar in ft. Lauderdale cause I was kinda SA'd. It's a mixed bag.

People treated me better for the first year then it was normal. My biggest was 286lbs (129 Kilograms.). I'll never forget getting down to 168 and I felt like shit because of how little energy I had I feel a lot better at 189lbs-194lbs range but that's because I eat better and I lift weights and exercise and I'm not trying to lose weight and I didn't really use any weights going down but I did when I was trying to not feel sluggish from being too small.

That's trippy to think, I had a group of friends in my early 20's at my smallest and they were telling me to catch up but when I was an overweight teenager, I was being told to hurry up because I was big and therefore, slower.