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I'm a tall lady (for my area, though shortest of my siblings), about the average height of guys here, and yeah. Some guys have sounded very accusatory actually - as though I grew tall on purpose to make them feel short. Oddly enough, none of those were literally short guys.
No big deal, I like my height, shorter is not something I've ever wished to be. All 3 of my long term relationships have been with guys about my same height.
I'd consider myself to not care about if my partner was higher than me.
But if I am really honest with me, I do think it would hurt my pride if my partner was taller.
I am totally fine if equal or whatever else size.
But I believe if the personality is near total hit and fits mine, I could totally see past that.
Long, somewhat related story:
Many moons ago I was at a club and was dying for a smoke, but you had to leave the club and go through two sets of lines and ID checks to get to where I was hanging out on the second floor. Well, they had a giant outdoor balcony, but the area was walled off by a line of plastic chairs. My drunk, fiendin, ass said, "fuck it", shuffled a chair out of the way, and snuck off to the corner to smoke. Well, what was one or two people who noticed me and did the same, soon turned into a packed balcony.
Regardless, my little act of rebellion seemed to get the attention of a "tallish" girl in heels who started chatting me up. About 3/4 through my smoke, the bouncers finally catch wind that there's fifty people on the balcony, and start angrily shuffling people back into the club. At this point, I ask the chick if she wants to dance, and she accepts.
Kudos to her for lasting as long as she did, but thirty seconds into grinding her ass on my stomach, she gave up trying to dance with me and walked away without a word, never to be seen again.
I wouldn't even consider myself short (1.78m, 5'10"), but it was a humbling moment at the time.
No but then women tend to get a pass for being short. I don't have much going for me so I feel the shortness lends me a bit of cuteness. I'm fun-sized!
Everyone is tall compared to me so it's kinda funny that I ended up with a guy who's actually tall to everyone else too (6'1).
Edit: 5'1
too many people based it on porn standards, 6'+ and 7-10inches long.
I'm a 5'7 woman. Yes, I've been rejected a couple times because I'm on the taller side.
Wait really? Are you straight? I'd be really surprised any guys would think 5'7 is too tall.
5'7" IS short in some countries for males.
Edit: For example, average male height in the US is 5'9". Below average by 2 inches is fairly noticeable. Tom Cruise is 5'7". Everyone knows he's short. Is there anything wrong with that? No. I'm 6'4" and I assure you it's not all it's cracked up to be.
I was at a cast party with my s/o (she is in theatre) and all the women were chanting that only short kings were at the party (I'm 5'8) - that's the closest I've been to rejection lol.
I thought this thread was talking about applying for jobs and was so confused
No, but I was rejected because I couldn't drive.
5'5 and no. It's usually my outlandishly goofy and immature sense of humor that scares folks off, based on what I've been told about it. For context, my favorite podcast is bigsofttitty.png, so....fair enough lol
It was used as an excuse once, they just liked someone else. I was ~5'10"
I don't think so, no, but I've definitely been rejected because they didn't think I was cute. The world has gone downhill ever since they let women pick their mates! 😤
Being thin will land you there.
Also fat...
Male, 5' 10" / ~1.78m.
For actual first dates, serious to semi serious, or a first genuine asking someone out on a date?
No, never been rejected on account of my height.
For... whole bunch of people at a bar or party, dancing, hitting on each other and looking to go home with someone?
... Maybe once or twice a chick I was into snubbed me for a taller guy?
I've managed to draw some away from taller dudes a few times as well, so... balances out?
...
Possibly worth mentioning that I think I've only ever dated one or two women the same height or even slightly taller than me...
As there are a portion of women who will reject a guy who is too short, I think that also works in reverse and there are a portion of men who will reject a gal because she's too tall.
