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i am honestly afraid of sharing my sitch but i hope that some of you are braver than I

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[–] dosse91@lemmy.trippy.pizza 6 points 8 hours ago

When I worked as a technician, I had to install windows and help people set up proprietary garbage on a daily basis, despite me being very much into free software. It felt a bit surreal at times when I was setting up AD servers or helping grandmas to use whatsapp while I was using a degoogled phone with lineageos and linux on all my computers and home server.

Now I work as a teacher, I can use whatever I want on my devices and encourage my students to do the same.

[–] python@lemmy.world 9 points 13 hours ago

Yea, working in tech be like that sometimes. I quit my current job because I hate the AI push (especially the part about paying Antropic 250€ per month per employee) and because I think relying on AWS for critical European infrastructure is a really stupid idea.
The new job I'm starting in October isn't much better though. It's with a company that I would personally never ever enter a customer relationship with. It's still reliant on AWS, but at least it's not critical infrastructure. An AWS outage would only cost the company, not the customer. And the AI push in the new company is much milder because the teams there are highly skilled 3-5 senior engineer teams that don't tolerate being told what tools to use.

[–] mineralman@lemmy.ml 2 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

this is why I've made income sacrifices and stayed in the higher ed sector. Lot less of this sort of crap.

[–] christian@lemmy.ml 12 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I believe veganism is ethical but have failed repeatedly in attempts to give up comfort foods. A lot of tastes nauseate me, so I don't intend to give it another try until I can afford the costs (in time, finances, emotional health) of trial-and-error to find more meals that work for me.

[–] decended_being@midwest.social 3 points 10 hours ago

It took a slow transition for me, but then one day I didn't have any more animal products in my home (as food, I didn't throw out wool socks, etc.)

Why pay for cruelty?

[–] CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world 15 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

I was seeing this guy who just wanted to go down on me and worship my feet while I told him he was a good boy and stuff like that but then it turned out he was a cop. Does that count?

[–] Hadriscus@jlai.lu 4 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

πŸ˜‚ Did the knowledge of his cop-ness ruin the fun ?

[–] CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world 8 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Fuck the police, just not literally

[–] iguessimlemming@lemmy.ml 2 points 11 hours ago

Don't fuck the police

[–] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 9 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah of course, that's part of the process of developing a consistant political perspective. You're gonna fuck up and violate your own internal moral code or develop one that contradicts itself in some ways. That's okay as long as you learn from it no?

Thank you for your wisdom, Comrade Shark Fucker.

[–] benjirenji@slrpnk.net 2 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

Sure, with Big Tech losing sight of customer needs and going a lot more fascist in recent years I hate working for an American tech company and it's weird to be a tech enthusiast. Money is great though and I can sleep well at night knowing my product barely has any customers to ruin their lives of.

Still: I'd love to have a positive impact on the world with my skills, but the job market is shit and my immediate environment doesn't care as much despite noticing the hostility towards users.

[–] borokov@lemmy.world 23 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Yeah, I grew up in rural area. Not "poor", but population revenu was below average. Hard work was valued. Why would I have to give money for people who doesn't work ?! Those lazy bastard just have to find a job. If someone is rich, it's because he worked very hard and deserves it.

Oh boy what a moron I was...

I'm in my 40s now working for a huge company. The less I work, the more I'm paid....

[–] MrOtingocni@lemmy.world 31 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah, like every day when I drag my ass out of bed to go to work, look around and think "this is a bunch of bullshit"

[–] aGlassDarkly@piefed.zip 9 points 1 day ago

Definitely feel this one. Seems like every day is another β€œhey, we’re going to contract fascistCorpPro and drop fascistLiteCo, I need your staffs to bring the fascists up to speed with this access they definitely shouldn’t have.”

So I just β€œforget” to do as many things as I can and make up as much plausible bullshit as possible to poison whatever illegal-ass things they keep asking for. At some point I assume they’ll catch on, and that’ll be the end of my career and any chance I thought I might have had to retire someday, but I’m not sure what else to do.

[–] AlteredEgo@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Are you asking about being in a situation where you had to act against your personal beliefs, or where a personal situation made you rethink your personal beliefs?

[–] DisasterTransport@startrek.website 14 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I have no idea what I was asking, but it's probably a sign to take a break from substances for a while lmao. This post is mildly embarrassing, but I'll leave it up because I hate when people nuke their posts.

[–] AlteredEgo@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Haha, well it's a good, very open ended quesiton.

[–] DisasterTransport@startrek.website 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

The question itself is solid, I'll give drunk me that, but the vagueposting attached to it does not feel good to read the day after lmfao. I participate in capitalism, is all I can come up with. But we all participate in capitalism, idk what's embarrassing about that

[–] AlteredEgo@lemmy.ml 3 points 22 hours ago

I too partake, even though it's against my political beliefs!

[–] mistermodal@lemmy.ml 16 points 1 day ago

Yeah man I used to live in the United States of America

Yeah, and that changed my political belief.

Politics is not a religion. New data should change your views.

This is called changing your mind with new information.

"Politcal" is just a word people use to belittle or poo poo moral and social beliefs and growing and changing with new information and experiences is natural and better than blindly sticking to some idealism to stick within a perceived party line.

[–] jet@hackertalks.com 9 points 1 day ago

Yeah, that's just meeting other people. No two people have exactly the same beliefs on everything

[–] HieroProtagonist@lemmy.ml -4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Well, 20 years ago i was really, really on the left. I mean, i have read "Das Kapital", i visited political talks, was a member in "Die Linke" (a very left leaning party in Germany) and often participated in protests.

Over the years while having increased contact to asylum seekers / migrants during the time after 2015 and after getting the opportunity to get to know many of them (i volunteered to help in some projects) i noticed my political views moving step by step more to the right.

[–] midimalist@lemdro.id 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If you're okay with sharing it here, I would like to know more about what happened? Which value of extreme left have you reconsidered?

[–] HieroProtagonist@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 day ago (3 children)

In 2015 i was very well aboard the "Refugees welcome" train and really thought that the influx of those people would benefit the German society and create a more diverse and open culture. After getting to know some of those asylum seekers, working with some of them and trying to help others to find their way around the German bureaucracy i quickly discovered that, while there are some genuine nice people among them, most hold worldviews that would even an alt-right nationalist nutjob be too conservative. I genuinely witnessed attempts at fraud at an astronomical scale and an absolute disregard for the societal norms. Oh, and there were two attempts to rob me at knifepoint.

Let me just state that i am now in favor of much stricter asylum / immigration laws and i vocally advocate for sending people home who abuse the system and / or going criminal.

[–] midimalist@lemdro.id 7 points 1 day ago

Thank you, I think it is a very reasonable take. Not every asylum seekers have value that align with left-leaning ideology. It is hard to start this discussion without being labeled as right wing/nazi/racist.

I am an ex-muslim and also pretty damn left, but it is really hard to have a discussion on why Islam can be Bad. I put my hope for all the progressive muslims to change the culture surrounding the religion but considering how Islam works, I am not very optimistic it can change. We will see.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

There is an important requirement toward assimilation into laws and some freedoms, I think, and I would love to see incoming refugees and migrants find a way to preserve their own beliefs while understanding where it doesn't match the belief structure of their new country and ready to work within the new environment.

This means very careful face-covering regs that respect religious demands on women but understands legal requirements for very discreet identification by 'approved' state reps -- and provides both education around it for everyone and people ready to bridge that gap.

And it also means better education around fraud and the freedom and responsibility to report it. And yes, I think that people mirating on a provisional basis - temporary/new status - need to know that their new countries don't accept the cut corners with a pay-out, that that it's our responsibility to report that stuff as proper citizens.

And yes, crime should remove the privileges of a temporary resident status. It's well-shown that immigrants are the most law-abiding people, on average, so this won't be a huge problem, but those who slip through the cracks can't stay and earn permanent status like that.

But it's nuanced. We need to deal with the hate toward immigration so it doesn't colour every interaction with refugees and migrants, and cause low-key distrust toward wonderful people. That's essentially racism, and it's not cool. I think we can let in people who like their new country and its rights and freedoms, while gently redirecting the people who can't assimilate properly where it matters (laws and rights, not directly religious and cultural). Some people are not a good fit to some host countries, and that needs to be assessed on a case basis, lest they indirectly germinate racism by their very discordant presence.

Unleash the downvotes. I'm sure I've offended droves of people who don't get that I am very pro-migration but cautiously so.

[–] communist@lemmy.frozeninferno.xyz 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Are you no longer a communist over this? I don't really see how your stance on immigration is very related.

[–] HieroProtagonist@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 day ago (3 children)

The thing is: At least in many German circles there is this weird focus on intersectionality, you CAN NOT be left if you are advocating for a stricter immigration / asylum regulation - you will be labeled a Nazi / Fascist or something along the lines.

[–] Micromot@piefed.social 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

This is problematic because it judges human beings based on the value they bring to the state. This is also why "Most of them are valuable workers" is a bad argument. It says we should allow immigration but only if our state profits from it.

If you are against nationalism, you should also disagree with this, as it assigns the interest of the state to be the interest of the population.

Human beings shouldn't be measured by the work they can bring but by the fact that they are humans too.

In fact the workers have more in common with immigrants than with politicians or anyone in power

So? Aren't they just wrong? Why reject the whole philosophy because some people are wrong about it?

[–] WhoIzDisIz@lemmy.today 6 points 1 day ago

Yeah, leftist idealism is great when you're dealing with people who share those common-good views, but the harsh reality is that far too much of the world is "dog-eat-dog" (a.k.a. "every man for himself") to be compatible with such ideals. You've got to ensure those you're allowing into the collective mindset are actually part of that mindset, or they will destroy it from within like a cancer.

It's called "nuance," and far too few take the time to consider it, preferring instead to not think and just go with the "all or nothing" extremes. Nuance is something that comes with maturity and a world that forces you to learn it or get screwed. You haven't really changed your beliefs, but rather you've just learned there are practical limitations to everything.