Asterix
FriendOfDeSoto
joined 2 years ago
There is no simple answer to this. It's like at least three factors interacting. How much empathy do you feel towards the other person? How close is your relationship on the scale of strangers bumping into each other on the street to best friends forever? How big an issue has any of this been objectively (or as close as you can get there)? So that's three sliding scales to adjust to get an outcome. The closer a relationship is, the harder this can be because there is history and people (I'm including myself in this) can be very petty.
Just judging by the hints you dropped you should probably reconsider your approach to your coworkers. And I don't mean you need to be submissively apologetic all the time and share everything from your private life, even your hemorrhoid problems, with the crew. You'll probably make your life easier just on a human level plus improve odds of promotion if you do more of that, even if it feels more line cosplay to you. I share your "grow the eff up"/no bullshit stance but that only works in a group of like minded people.
I think it's the wrong label, anti-intellectualusm. Sense of reality might do it more justice. I think there are two factors at play. 1) how much does higher education cost you? Does it put you in debt you'll be lucky to have paid off before you retire? Have other people gotten degrees and still ended up unemployed? Why get majorly in debt to get no job in the end? That's more a North American specific problem. I'm in Asia and I haven't heard anybody shit talking college degrees in favor of the trades. 2) We need plumbers and carpenters and welders and whatnot. And due to declining birth rates in many places and the fact that the numerous birth years of the boomers are retiring and will continue to retire in the short term, we are running out of sparkies, masons, and HVACs. So if you had to career advise people today, you'd be silly not to bring up a profession with near certainty of getting a job once you're trained up.
Shitty work environments exist in more high brow professions as well.
People are mad. There are mad people on both sides.
Consumers can feel very empowered by a few hundred followers and one bad experience. And that translates more into a diss track, embelished and dramatized, than an honest review. Entrepreneurs justifiably fear this because this can hurt their businesses significantly. So they fight back with this legal retcon attempt. It's most likely not enforceable - and they probably know that too. If they wouldn't mind you speaking positively about you online, they cannot keep the negative stuff out either (as long as it is based in fact, libel is a different story). This little boiler plate serves only to give pause to the consumer. It plants a seed of restraint in their minds (if they actually read it).
Humans are a complicated species.
That was only option 2.
You need to try for yourself. Or consult a therapist who knows you well enough. Us idiots on the internet cannot look inside your head.
Wortfindungseuphorie.
Kids are probably old enough to get it. I would just think that you will be loading a shotgun that's going to shoot you in the face down the line. Either the ladies will get in each other's hair or, worse, they'll team up against you. I think your girlfriend is either insane or not entirely honest when she says she would be fine with your arrangement. I would sooner suggest you look for a place closeby. I'm guessing the 15yo is eye rolling you hard and the 13yo will soon not care about you either. You've carried them through the divorce rough spot with your unique living arrangement. Take a bow and let it go. Provide a better environment for your new relationship.
We are just asking old questions here. The printing press, novels, and pamphlets were the end of truth! We struggled, many people died, but life moved on. Then newspapers, more death, radio, world wars. Television, photoshop, the internet - fewer deaths in between but still. And life moved on.
Every new medium brought a phase of uncertainty (and possible carnage). That's where we are right now. Every time we think "this is the worst EVER." Until the next thing comes around. We will figure out the slop tsunami as well. I think fewer people will die than during the reformation.
Some people will successfully bend truth to generated video or whatever. But in the end, most will not succeed. Because we get wiser at spotting the bullshit. Q Anon showed us the learning isn't a linear development; it follows more of a two steps forward, one step back pattern.
Have you ever noticed the difference in screen quality before? Did you ever watch a YT video on something slightly better than a cathode ray monitor and thought to yourself: "hmm, this is shit."? If so, don't cheap out on the tablet. Maybe a used iPad might even be ideal. I'm leaning Apple here because Android tablet screens tend to be worse on average and there will be fewer good ones on the resale market.
If you don't want a big TV, how about a smaller one that you can cast content to? Just as another suggestion because other folks have already suggested laptops.
As you get older, your eyes turn to shit and most of this won't matter that much. So you're right to be cautious on the spending.
I proudly watch movies on my phone. If I don't want to watch Paw Patrol or Frozen it's the only way to get some not-made-for-kids content in. And I can take it to the toilet and continue watching. And I don't mean porn, just to clarify. Sure, as the cinematic experience goes, it isn't what Christopher Nolan had in mind but shit happens. It's that or nothing.
Corporate needs you to find the difference between this picture and this picture.
"Random" "Random, with rules"
Me: They're the same picture.
Having to learn about genetics made me drop biology as a subject as soon as I could in school. I might have been able to wrap my head around it slightly better than OP but not by much.
If we are honest with ourselves, we all have biases that end in -phobia. They are on a siding scale and get more pronounced in certain situations. The assholes in society don't gaf about their biases and don't care if they say or do hurtful things as a result. The more enlightened people know about their lizard brain biases and try their best not to act on them.
Maybe you are a bit homophobic. But you are aware of your biases and you can make sure you don't act on them in a way that is hurtful to other people. Knowing is half the battle. So don't beat yourself up over it. From what I've been reading in your post you are doing it right.