You should add your age for context. You're either a normal adolescent/young adult figuring shit out like all of us have to. Or you can consider yourself part of the spectrum, maybe in aceflux. You can do that at any age to be fair. I would just wait until maybe ~25 before you make your own identity ruling here. And keep in mind stuff changes over time still even after you've reached that age, maybe just at a slower pace.
In the end, you do you. I would recommend honesty with your partners. They could be pretty pissed when they find out by accident that you've been more like holding your proverbial nose to enable intercourse.
That's just YouTube speak. The implied drama gets them more clicks. It's how to frame the ancient medium of public debate for millenials and genz. It's like YouTubers pulling the dumbest, silliest possible face on the thumbnail. It'll have more views too.
It's also a sign of the times since Y2K that you couldn't just have an enlightening discussion. Somebody has to get owned. Hitchens was forthright in his rhetoric but I never heard him be disrespectful. I've only ever seen him tracking the ball, not the players. But that's boring so people add their own spice to it. And they tend to cut out any counter arguments if the footage was from a public debate.