Okay I just reread your post, as I missed the bit you mentioned about instances like blahaj hiding the downvotes.
So a couple of questions for you.
You mentioned the communities aren't on the instances that hide downvotes.. Are these communities that live on instances that are not federated with for example blahaj.zone?
And also, you mentioned that instances that are hiding downvotes is also not a solution due to the downvoter and others still being able to see the downvotes. So I ask, why is that an issue for you? Why be worried about fake internet points that aren't even really tracked here (unlike Reddit for example), that you can't even see? Actual engagement in discussion between people is far more important no?
I'm a pretty geeky IT person, who is trans, watches anime, reads manga, and plays WoW.
Yeah I'm basically a walking stereotype at this point 😅