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Also--there's always more--if you live with somebody and they say you need to clean up a mess, right then is the time to do it. Unless you are making food at that moment or are in the middle of something really important, like tending to a wound, or putting out a fire.

At that moment your companion is being your reminder, so make use of that opportunity!

You can also create that opportunity by asking somebody in your life who is good at managing things to come over occasionally and help guide you. Not do it for you. Just look over a space and give you direction, then hang out and keep you company.

Have a few drinks or buy them dinner after.

A lot of folk are embarrassed by their messes, but as long as you're not inviting a nagging judgemental nasty mother-in-law type over, I think you'll be suprised how understanding your friends and family can be when you admit you know your ADHD is holding you back but step-up and ask for direction occasionally with cleaning.

Get guidance per problem, apply solutions when able, don't beat yourself up when you slip up, that's going to happen, just re-apply the solution when you realize your slacking at that thing again.

To-do lists and guides and reminders are really the best, but still most will fall out of the habit and have to dig back in periodically.

Reminders get skipped, distractions will happen. It's okay. That's normal for you (and most people actually). But keep the reminders and guides and lists anyway, everytime you encounter them there's another opportunity to accomplish something.

If you realize you've slacked off cleaning, for example, and you have a detailed checklist for deep cleaning each room, you can right then grab the list off the clipboard on your wall and start working through as much as you can before you get distracted or have to sleep or whatever.

If it's all broken out onto little things it'll be less daughting, just hyper focus on that one thing until it's done, if possible. Then move onto the next if you have time still.

Don't kick yourself if you get sidetracked and clean up some clothes in your bedroom after picking up a sweater from the living room, instead of finishing in the living room, as long as you're still plugging away at cleaning some you are doing fine.

And you don't have to do everything all right now.

There's probably too much to do for that to be a reasonable expectation anyway.

And there's no right order, except if you notice you don't have any clean clothes or dishes or TP or food at the moment, then probably prioritize addressing those things first.

You can buy cleaning and chore checklist online. And there are daily journals designed for peeps with ADHD that have spaces for a few check list items, spaces to log positive reflections, chore or cleaning suggestions.

You can go through them in advance and add occasional reminders for tasks you know you forget. Or you can try filling out a couple things for tomorrow before bed today. Try different things. And whatever works best for you, or works at the moment, that is great. 

If you use any of this, remember it doesn't have to be every day. Just keep the tool accessible, mount them on the wall or dedicate a space where they are less likely to get burried, use them as much as you can, and forgive yourself for missing days or taking breaks, or misplacing them.

That stuff happens. It is okay.

I'm jealous of all y'all who know why you got bans.

I've gotten warning and temp bans, but they never specify why. They never include the content. Just saying promoting this or that is very unclear, like how, when, where? Did I actually?

I always just ignore them and carry on on alts for a while.

Their shit is so stupid. But there's a lot of useful content on Reddit. I still hit up old house and DIY type groups, cause I own an old house, and specific tech groups because of the tech I use, but I don't miss the rest.

If I ran for any office I would literally accept all donations, and not concern myself at all with where any of it came from. I'd have no private meetings or dinners with donors, spend no time talking to lobbyists.

I'd just treat every dollar the same and focus on what it's being used for.

It doesn't seem logical not to take your oppositions money if they are going to give it freely. That's their mistake to make.

Even for an accidental discharge?

I'd be interested to know if that's true.

I've seen plenty of both misandry and misogyny.

I've only seen misandry so far on this thread.

It would be pretty upsetting if who saw what was deliberate in order to manipulate the viewers.

Girls do this shit too, and it's not new.

The general message to 'be good to each other' is very old, and has to be told often. The internet provides for a lot of anonymity and seperation from consequence, so allows for people to say shitty things without the moderation that's more common in public and personal spaces.

It's not surprising at all that there is tons of men or women online talking shit about each other. What is surprising is that the platforms it happens on don't just delete that crap as a rule. Many will let it fester and negatively effect the community because people interact with it, and interaction means ad hits.

We need laws that make monetizing such content illegal, to encourage it's quick removal.

Just bitching about having to see it isn't good enough.

Community bikes are not a new thing. They had them in my hometown through most of my youth and teen years, and may still. I don't live there anymore. 🙁

They had a strong bike community, and a bike store and repair shop off a main ped/cycle path through town, just outside downtown. It had a lounge and was the primary source of the community bikes and their maintenance.

Paint the bikes all a similar bright color, not white, and get stickers made with info about use and contact info for pickup and repair.

Like, "I'm a community bike, use me as you like, leave me somewhere responsibly when you're done with me, so somebody else can use me too. Contact for pickup or repairs 555 RIDE 4ME"

Yeah, don't say you don't know if you do, that's lying, which is a crime in this situation. You can answer crime related questions with questions (avoidance). But don't do that for everything. If they push, start asking if you're free to go. If they say no, invoke the 5th.

Don't do their jobs for them.

Don't answer any questions that could incriminate you. Or talk to them in general. But be polite when you do speak.

Only tell them your name or provide other required identity information. Don't say where you are going or coming from. Don't explain anything. Don't tell stories. Don't lie.

I can definitely cut steal with my angle grinder.

Faraday bags work... But test them.

I got a cheapo $7 Chromebook sized bag that seemed to work for my SOs iphone. We don't use NFC so I couldn't test that.

No BT, WiFi, or Cell, and probably no GPS.

I only did casual testing.

The screen still showed the signal having low bars for WiFi and cellular, but it didn't actually receive a signal at all when trying to call or use the net, not even with the top of the bag open a sliver and my hand in there.

If the device was off or in airplane mode and in the bag, I'd be comfortable assuming it was safely hidden from tracking.

I haven't thoroughly tested my various personal devices, but I expect identical results.

I think everyone should probably have a bag like this around, in a go-bag or something, just in case. And it's safer to have your phone available than not, as long as it's secure (use a pin or password to lock it, use encryption, put emergency info on it for first responders).

Awe, I miss browsers like Lynx, and MDA and EGA monitors. Those where the days.