sandhu

why are we here on earth ?? [ motive of our lives ] is it happiness or sufferings?

What's your honest advice for a young person struggling with rent, money, and finding a job, still relying on parents financially right now?

Not looking for "just work hard," genuinely curious what actually got you through a phase like this, and how you dealt with the guilt of relying on parents at this age.

I just feel like I'm running behind something, not even sure what exactly, money, stability, proving something to myself, maybe all of it at once. Curious if anyone else has felt that and figured out what they were actually running from, or toward........

is money really very very important , is it above all things , is it right that we can buy happiness with money ???

what is happiness according to you ??

Did any of you grow up in a toxic or unstable home as a kid? How did you actually deal with it, or move past it?

Looking back, home wasn't calm growing up. Constant fighting between my parents, things a kid shouldn't really be exposed to. I don't even fully know whose fault it is, honestly, and part of me hesitates to blame either of them completely, because I've also watched both of them work hard for me despite everything falling apart between them. That contradiction is confusing on its own, seeing people cause you pain and also genuinely try for you at the same time. I've started noticing it in myself now, more impatience than I think I should have, reacting harder to small things than the situation probably calls for. It's like some of that environment got wired into me without me even realizing it until recently.

I'm not asking for sympathy, I'm asking because I know I'm not the only one who's grown up like this, and I'd genuinely like to know how people actually worked through it, not just survived it, but actually became calmer, steadier versions of themselves afterward.

A few things I'm curious about:

Did you notice the effects on yourself right away, or did it take years to even recognize the pattern?

Was there a specific turning point, therapy, a relationship, distance from the situation, or was it more gradual than that?

Does it ever fully go away, or does it just become something you manage better over time?

Genuinely trying to understand this instead of just carrying it forward without realizing it. Appreciate any real experiences you're willing to share.

[[[[Sometimes I catch myself wondering what it would've actually felt like to grow up in a genuinely happy, peaceful family. Hard to even imagine it sometimes, since it's not something I ever really got to experience firsthand._]]]]

what's your biggest fear, not like spiders or heights, the real one

mine's dying without ever actually making it, like looking back one day and feeling like i failed at life overall

curious what everyone else actually carries around ...........

ngl which country is actually the best to retire in? like proper peace, good weather, decent food, not stressed 24/7 kinda vibe

not looking for the "richest" answer, just curious where people actually feel chill and healthy once they're done working.........

Just curious, what do you guys actually do for a living?

Scrolling through comments here, you can tell there's a huge mix of people, some clearly technical, some more creative, some who sound like they've been in the working world for decades, others who feel like students or early in their career.

No particular reason for asking, just genuinely curious what kind of professions make up this community. Feel free to keep it as vague or specific as you're comfortable with.

Drop your profession below, and if you want, one thing about it people usually don't expect.

how to stop negative self talk , really need help want to get rid of thiss ,,,,///

Everyone's talking about "learn a skill" like it's some magic fix. I've tried, and nothing has stuck. What am I doing wrong?

Over the past while I've actually tried: copywriting, logo design, tutoring, SEO, social media management. Not just thought about them, actually tried them. I even reached out to businesses directly for each one, emailed a genuinely large number of people, and maybe 1% ever replied, and even then it was usually just "we don't need this right now" before the conversation closed. And every single one, I quit before it went anywhere.

I don't think it's because these skills don't work, plenty of people clearly make money from all of them. I think something in how I'm approaching this is off, and I want to actually understand what before I pick up something new and repeat the same pattern for the sixth time.

So instead of just asking "what skill should I learn," I want to ask something more specific:

For people who actually stuck with a skill long enough to see results, how long did it take before you saw any real payoff? I have a feeling I've been quitting before the "boring middle part" even ends.

Did you struggle with switching between different skills before one finally clicked, or did you commit hard to one thing from the start?

Is a 1% reply rate on cold outreach actually normal, or is that a sign my pitch, targeting, or approach itself needs fixing before I even think about the skill?

If you were in my position right now, tried five different things with nothing to show for it, what would you actually do differently, a new skill, or the same list with more patience?

I'm not opposed to learning something new, but I'd rather fix whatever's actually broken in my approach than just add a sixth failed attempt to the list...................

What side hustle actually helped you make money during a rough financial phase???

Being honest, I'm going through this right now. I need money, and I'm trying to figure out something realistic I can actually start, not some "make $10k a month" course pitch, just something real that's genuinely worked for regular people.

If you've been through a similar phase, I'd really appreciate hearing:

What did you actually do,and how much time did it realistically take before it started paying off?

Did it need any upfront investment, or could you start with basically nothing?

Would you recommend it to someone in a tight spot right now, or was it more trouble than it was worth?

Not looking for generic lists, genuinely want to hear what worked for real people who've actually been where I am right now. Any advice is appreciated. 😶‍🌫️ >--___^___^#

BE

What song have you played way too many times and still aren't tired of?

Trying to find new music that isn't just algorithm recommendations. Drop yours below.