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I 👏 want 👏 more 👏 girl 👏 content 👏

To be clear - I am talking about stereotypically "female" subjects, not about the gender itself, and I hope it goes without saying that I want people of all genders to be part of it. Some topics over on reddit are full of guys, NBs, and everyone else, but are what a bigoted 90s teacher would call "female" topics. I want more stuff of what that 90s teacher would call "girly" stuff.

I mean, something like a makeup community. Maybe skincare and fashion. Cleaning tips. Pre and post and peri pregnancy content. The parenting community on lemmy is super quiet. There is a sewing community but it is rather quiet too. I haven't found a mending focused community yet. Boy there even isn't a sailor moon community, like 😭 come on

I'm horrible in creating any content tho, so uhm, not sure I should be complaining.

The problem in this thread seems to be that children are seen as one homogenous group of people between ages 0 to 17. And you can either send you 5 year old to NYC without any technology by themselves, or check your 17 year old's location 24/7. Forget about any kind of in between.

Like, of course I am "surveilling" my 3 year old, I am literally obligated to. I do this with my own eyes or leave them in the care of a capable person, although depending on the situation (relative, babysitter, daycare) it is still me who is liable when something happens.

I am happy to leave my 8 year old rumble around freely as long as they return home by a time that we agreed on. We can very well also agree on them calling if they won't make it home by the agreed time, and if they don't call or pick up their phone within an additional 30 minutes, I will check their location. This can be a known and agreed upon checking. And it is about mutual trust. I trust my kid at a certain age to be responsible and keep track of time, and be available by phone (unless otherwise agreed or if they don't have a phone to begin with), as well as be where we agreed they would be, without checking. And I hope my kid will also trust me to keep up my side of the agreement. I won't check unless it's past return time and you are not picking up your phone.

This mutual trust is important in families. You deserve privacy, even if you are a kindergartener. This privacy will expand with age. This is like hiding your locked diary or leaving an open diary on your desk. You should not feel the need to hide it because I for sure won't look at it. It is yours. Similarly, you can roam around freely even with an airtag. This thing is not for daily use.

Now, does my 17 year old need an airtag? To me they are basically an adult. Hell knows I had all the freedom in the world at that age. If they feel safer knowing I could check on them when they are on a night out, maybe we can keep a similar agreement as above. But otherwise it doesn't seem to make a lot of sense to me.

Born and raised in Germany, I have been a foreigner for 33 years. They had finally changed the ruling about double citizenship, and I was finally ready to apply. But this whole Israel stance is such a disgrace. So far I have not handed an application in, I feel too ashamed. I cannot imagine wanting to join a tribe that does what it does right now.

Right now the front page of the state news features that a hamas video was released and shows the hostages being very thin. I am raging. Yes it is awful. But you have thousands of starving children in Gaza. And you're doing this on purpose. Hundreds of thousands of people dead, the rest has such a trauma, if they miraculously make it out alive, the trauma will epigenetically be passed on for generations and generations to come. And somehow your focus is still on 50 people? On poor Israel?

It's a show, not a movie, but I have been watching Fleabag at least 20 times on repeat within half a year (November to April). I do a lot of housework and it often plays in the background while I cook or clean. I know every line. I know every shot and smile and can basically watch it in my head.

When I was 11, I was watching the VHS tape with Pirates of the Caribbean daily for about 1.5 months.

Movies and series are just one of my favorite things in the world. I do want to make time for that. Are there more important and wholesome things to do? Absolutely. But I also feel like I should be allowed to do something not meaningful or important every now and then. I've been thinking about it a lot throughout my life, whether, on my deathbed, I will regret having watched so much stuff, thinking I should have spent that time differently. I don't think I will. Because I love stories. I think it is one (possible) meaning of life, to listen to as many stories as you can. I listen to people's stories, to things that are actually happening, and TV and movies are another medium that also tells stories. I understand that a lot of people prefer books, maybe that's objectively the better, healthier choice, but I am fine with choosing the former. I once fancied a career in that field, but after a year I realized that it killed any joy I got out of it, and fucked up my health (99.9% of people are smokers). But at the end of the day, thinking of something from scratch and conveying this idea of events to someone else is fantastic. It is amazing. I feel like I have lived a thousand lives, and I want to live another thousand.

And I reevaluate that question and my answer to it often, on a regular basis. So far, I am very d'accord with it.

Also, just to make it clear, of course I do other stuff. I go outside with my kid every day, we play, we are being creative, I meet a lot of people and always have. I just don't see less value in watching a movie than in woodwork, gardening, sewing. Also, to be fair, a lot of times when I watch something, it's because I can't do anything else, "more productive", in that moment. I'm not gonna go turn on the sewing machine at midnight. The realistic choice is between watching tiktoks, shorts, etc, or hanging at lemmy for an hour, or watch a movie. I think watching a movie (or half) is time better spent than on social media clicking through short videos.