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submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by tasho@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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a nightmarish scenario came to reality for me yesterday!

so - a month ago, my brother got me an interview for a place that I was really looking forward to starting with. as soon as I got the call for the interview, I mentally noted the date - "28th! let's do this! I'll be so prepared!" I spent some time getting some basic notes ready, then went off to easter break to see family before refining my notes and preparation in earnest.

except, it wasn't on the 28th. it was on the 22nd. which I didn't find out until the morning of, 15 minutes before it was happening, thanks to my brother messaging me wishing me luck. I called them to apologise and begged them to schedule me in later - they gave me 30 more minutes. I cried the whole way getting there, then bombed the interview. I got my rejection pretty swiftly, and I'm so devastated.

how the hell does this happen?? this isn't even the first time I've conjured fantastical dates for appointments and events! I even had my confirmation email to reference, which I just immediately decided was still set for the date that I believed it was. I've always felt upset at how disorganised and absent-minded I am, and it's hard to not see this as a massive character failing. how can I hope to bounce back from something like this? things like this really make me feel like incapable of operating like a normal human being.

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[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Use a good calendar either physical or synced between devices. Eight everything down immediately. Solved!

Also, 45 minutes before an interview is plenty of time to prep. Next time tell yourself you can do it.

[–] tasho@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

solid advice...! I used to keep a bullet-journal diary but I completely fell off of it this year and used no replacement. I suppose I should use my phone calendar like everyone else.

is 45 minutes really enough??! I'm not particularly gifted with interviews to begin with and would have really liked the prep time :-(

[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 4 points 2 days ago

Are you selfhosting anything? Asking for what I should rec.

Journaling everyday really helps me. I constantly fell off when I gave myself rules of how the journal should be. Having a super easy format and giving myself the freedom to write whatever made it easy to write everyday and love it.

You might try a calendar or to do/reminders app as well. For instance iPhones reminders app is good because it will auto write the time based on what you type. I find this VERY convenient when making tasks and events.

Personally I somehow work really well with a fire under my rear. I delay forever until I’m forced to do the task then I am able to lock in. It’s either that or fail. Assuming you already knew the basics of the company and interview I think it’s achievable :) But, that’s how I work. I totally understand going into panic mode and freezing. We all work differently.

But I think you should take this as a learning opportunity to schedule and take notes better and have a easily changeable interview script ready to go :)