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fuck I'm not in the right headspace when I'm asking this, unresolved trauma. Now I'm repeating in my head "love them more than my mental illnesses".

I wanted to warn an organization i cared about my past and that manipulation comes naturally to me to the point where I don't notice after the fact. I legit want see them succeeded and stand in blind solidarity.

I have reached out someone in the organization about my issues. I'm hoping they respond.

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[–] Fizz@lemmy.nz 58 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Probably a question that should be discussed with a therapist. I dont think people here can give a good answer as we lack to much context.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 6 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago) (2 children)

yes, but this is also a straight up troll.

legit narcissists don't think they are manipulating people, or being narcissists. they see their behavior as 'natural'. they also don't talk about their trauma.

[–] rhombus@sh.itjust.works 6 points 6 hours ago (2 children)

Weird how often I see this take. Narcissism is really Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and it is possible for someone with NPD to recognize they have it and want to change. Not super common, but it is possible.

[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 39 minutes ago* (last edited 38 minutes ago)

Yep, although it'd be pretty surprising if it went like this. OP is straight up worried they're being bad to others and willing to invite embarrassment by announcing it. (Unless they never really meant it)

Like, amateur over-the-internet diagnosis is worthless, but BPD would fit the almost no information we have better.

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 1 points 4 hours ago

is possible for someone with NPD to recognize they have it and want to change.

at this point they are ceased being a narcissist.

[–] BooBees@fedinsfw.app 10 points 11 hours ago

There’s plenty of narcissists that know they’re narcissists, and there’s therapy tools to help them participate in the world in a more healthy manner, but as you sorta indicated, it’s very rare any want to, and even more rare than any actively go down that path, so seeing someone speaking as if they’re struggling with it internally without seeing any sign of having already developed those tools makes it highly unlikely they’re legit. Probably just regular old mental illness of some sort, maybe attention seeking coupled with drug use and emotional instability. Wonder if they’re single, that’s right up my alley.