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My eyes betray my feelings, do you know techniques to mitigate that? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 days ago by nameisnotimportant@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Hi all,

I'm a pretty chill person in my actions but quite sensible in the 'inside'.

Sometimes I run into issues with my feelings which can be very apparent in my eyes / gaze. It's fine most of the time but I recently had a not-so-confortable-situation where i wished I could keep a neutral gaze in front of a stranger to avoid making things more complicated.

Do you know any technique / tips to keep a friendly / neutral posture, even when someone is exhausting you or making you angry?

Thanks!

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[–] GreyShuck@feddit.uk 5 points 2 days ago

Not specifically for the eyes or posture, but for overall approach and attitude to situations like this:

Marcus Aurelius' quote: Begin each day by telling yourself: Today I shall be meeting with interference, ingratitude, insolence, disloyalty, ill-will, and selfishness – all of them due to the offenders’ ignorance of what is good or evil. - and stoicism in general.
Imagine them sitting on the toilet. You can't take them too seriously like that.
Take a longer perspective: consider whether this interaction will be of any significance at all in 10 years time?