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Well, one may view reservation as cowardice. The other may view it as sensible. Given how it's at odds with looking like a creep.
By the by, this sentence is brilliant, very nice turn of phrase. I'm keeping this one.
Not sure if you're serious - but thank you, if you are.
That being said, there's a difference between reservation and lying.
If you're 'reserved' and plan on telling them before you have sex with them, ok - I can acknowledge that that isn't cowardly.
If the two of you fuck and then you tell them you're only interested in sex - that's cowardly and manipulative behavior.
I honestly am, I appreciate well written English.
Yes, I do always tell them before hand. But usually I wait for that until things start to get serious. However I'll probably have to tell her sooner rather than later.
Edit: What I mean by 'get serious', is the initial sign of her showing sexual interest back.
Sorry for butting in, but you wait "until things get serious" to tell people you're into them just for the sex? I really want to give you the benefit of doubt because you've been respectful and articulate so far, but do you honestly not see the problem here? Why not just use Tinder for hookups?
It's as Jax put it. I didn't phrase it very clearly. I meant I usually tell them I don't want anything serious when I feel like they show romantic/sexual interest in me.
Can you have a guess?
Aah I saw their comment and your reply to them. That makes sense, sorry for the misunderstanding.
I think that this may be a miscommunication, I think that what they mean by 'get serious' is that the relationship has progressed to the point where having sex is all but guaranteed (which, let's be real - that can happen pretty fucking fast).
At least that's how I'm reading it.
Thank you, I saw your exchange and now I understand what was meant.