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You're not cautious, you're paranoid and fearful to the point it's a bit concerning for your mental health (although the suicidal ideation tells me the whole situation is more than just a bit concerning). You know this ain't normal, you know that's not how people are meant to live their lives, you know this cannot continue for long before you either snap at/hurt someone who didn't mean any harm or your mind breaks.
I know living in the USA cannot help your mental stability but it's not a favela, it really ain't that dangerous. Maybe moving to a smaller city or a town would work? Sometimes it's easier to change our circumstances than to change ourselves, and sometimes the former allows the letter as well.
He isn't paranoid and fearful. He just accidently created a benign habit.
Benign? The man cannot be outside without being in constant fear!
Well, maybe for men who are strong, they would feel safe all the time. But I'm not exactly a muscular guy, I'm just average.
Kinda in the same category as most women. Maybe statistically less likely to get SA'ed, but still, muggings, random assults, hate crimes?
My mom got robbed for a few hundred dollars just a fee blocks from my house.
Some kid was throw things at my grandma.
There've been hate crimes against Asian Americans since 2020. It never really went away.
Before 2020, it was "stranger danger" and as a kid, it was easy for adults to target you. But now? Its actual hate crimes.
So like, as an Asian American, this is like you telling a Black person in the South to "stop being in constant fear".
Even in supposedly "liberal" cities, you got people in NYC being attacked. Even native americans got blamed for covid. Like native american can you imagine the insanity?
I think your comment was probably made in good faith, but you're lacking context for what the US is like. Perhaps your area is very safe, in that case, I'm glad you have that safety, but things are kinds chaotic here. I mean, most of the world, other than small close-knit communities, the world is chaotic.
I remember people yelling racial slurs at me in school, and once even by kids younger than me.
Being a man doesn't make you safer, not unless you're a very muscular-looking man (which I'm not).