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Yo! I'm 25 years old, so not quite a wisened ancient, but I think I still have some good advice to dish out to a youngster such as you.
MANIFESTATION DOES NOT WORK!
Actions work. You want money? Find ways to make money. You want to travel more? Find the time and the funds to travel. Wagering your success on wishful thinking is nonsense, and I say this lovingly.
If you want a better headspace, I suggest journaling; it doesn't need to be serious or regular, just write down your thoughts and think through your options on paper, process your emotions in ink.
Also, taking some time once in a while to clear your head can do wonders. No music, no books, no videos... Just you and your thoughts. Sit on a park bench or just in your room and be quiet. Relax. I like to do this on my daily walks; I call it "raw-dogging the world", and it's a little weird at first, but it's good.
TRADING IS TOO RISKY
Look, I know some people can do it and succeed, even long term, but you have no reason to believe you're one of those people. You know how I know you have no reason to believe it? You have no industry backing. I suggest you get off trading and do some long-term, boring, diversified investment and stick to it.
Trading can be part of a good investment portfolio and strategy, especially if you're willing to put time into learning how to do it well, but it should never (and I mean never) be the way you make money, unless you have institutional capital backing you. Which you don't.
If you're American, maybe you can stick to an S&P500 index fund and be satisfied; I prefer an all-world fund.
Seriously, trading should be maybe 5 in every 100 bucks you invest, if you're crazy. If you're sane, it's 0.
Physical Fitness
Please, please pay attention to your physical fitness. I was very fat (obese) at your age, and it was terrible. At the time I didn't realise just how terrible it was, but when I shed the weight I felt like such a moron for having been so unhealthy for so long. Also, I was so weak! I'm not strong, per se, but even the little working out I have done in the years since has changed my life.
Seriously. Eat right, stay at a healthy weight, and do some basic exercises regularly. Go for walks or something, some push-ups and squats, nothing fancy. Just stay reasonably physically fit. It will pay dividends later on, but it will also feel WAY better RIGHT NOW! I swear.
Career
I'm still figuring this one out, but so far my strategy of aggressive upward mobility has worked out fine. Don't be afraid to change jobs, send out applications to random stuff that seemingly doesn't fit your experience level or CV... Just, try to get a job you don't hate and that pays good enough, and then try to get a better job (or a raise). Again, definitely don't take this as gospel or anything (you should take the physical fitness advice as gospel, by the way; I'm serious, it's insane the difference it makes), but it's what's worked so far.
Friends and Hobbies
I regret letting go of my social life entirely. I'm very asocial and bad with people, but it can be fun if you know how to balance it with everything else, and it gets really much harder to get back into being social after you've gone years without engaging with anyone. So, get friends and stay in touch! Just a little, if that's all you care to do, but at least do something so you don't lose them.
For hobbies, I definitely think that spending hours doomscrolling on TikTok was a terrible mistake I was making at your age. Or YouTube. Seriously, read more. Read literary fiction, old books new books, any author, whatever. Just read more. Non-fiction too, from actual experts (not wannabe gurus that pump out self-help drivel). Read more, learn more about a variety of subjects, educate yourself.
Again, these are things that I noticed I failed at at your age, and now as I have changed or am still changing my habits and priorities, I'm seeing the difference it makes.
Parents
I don't know what your parents are like, but my parents (and my family in general) is very helpful and supportive. If you can rely on them, do rely on them. It's OK. But also, make sure to spend quality time with them and pay back their efforts with love and appreciation, and probably most of all, pay them back by being happy. If you're feeling unhappy, if you feel stuck or lost or anything like that, speak with the people you can trust and rely on, and let them help you. They want to see you happy, and they will do right by you if you let them.
This is my experience, and I do hope you can do that too, though I realise it might unfortunately not be the case.
thanks broski for your valuable advice , will work on it and try to improve all these fields of life ..
I wish you the best homie!!!