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Smaller communities do feel like communities here. Lemmy as a whole is not that big but it still feels pretty public for me. I'm probably more of an introvert than you :p Public conversations like talking with someone on the bus (or like this) scare me a bit but exposure helps.
Still, it's nice you can enjoy these longer convos.
I feel you on exposures :)
Honestly, lemmy/fediverse really does feel like a community to me. There's a sense of connection across the screen that's possible. But you're right, it does feel public rather than private. It is more like talking at a block party, or similar get togethers than chilling with friends at home.
The real key to navigating it as an introvert is that digital communication is very time unsensitive. If I'm low on spoons, I can just hold off on responding for a few hours, and there's still a connection. Or, it's perfectly okay to just let it go. It's fine to let a conversation end without saying goodbye online. That really is a great thing for folks with limited social batteries
True and the time insensitivity is a real benefit. Thanks for the chat!