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Three summers back I was painting my house which is a miserable job especially because the walls of my house were deteriorating '70s pebble dash. Little rocks embedded in stucco kept falling out making a mess on the deck and getting stuck in vehicle tire grooves. The paint has kept them from sloughing off ever since. I went to a home hardware shop to get more paint since I underestimated how thirsty the walls would be. Dirty, overheated, and grumpy with my mind on the shitty task.

I was blasting Battle Beast in my silver 2011 Nissan Altima (yes the meme car) and apparently my parking job was so quick, immaculate, and confidently within the lines that I made a lady swoon. Or because a tall guy hopped out, who knows.

Out of the car I'm briskly walking towards the entrance across the sprawling baking-hot asphalt parking lot when she ran up behind to stop me and commented on my 1337 parking skillz. Now idk about you, but personally in my lived experience it's extremely rare to have a stranger approach you in a parking lot unless they're up to no good, begging, or mad at you for some reason.

So I immediately hedged because I figured the "compliment" was passive aggressive and maybe I just fucked up or something. I asked her if she was upset with me for some reason. She said no, and reiterated what she said which wasn't helpful and I figured that might also be sarcasm. So we stood there staring at each other as I ran back the last few minutes desperately trying to figure out what I did wrong. Eventually I blue screened and just said "okay" and turned around to continue my paint resupply mission, unsure how to handle the extremely awkward encounter with an admittedly attractive-looking woman, who in hindsight I think was being genuine.

We managed to run into each other indoors and both of us intensely avoided eye contact or saying anything further. Amazing.

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[–] SlayersFan@lemmy.world 24 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

I was around 15 years old, in an anime convention, while waiting on queue and nervous, I started talking to the guy next to me, he was around 30-35. I don't remember the details but we ended up on the topic of the anime Kuroshitsuji for some reason, and while explaining something about that show or another anime (can't remember as it's been a long time) he grabbed my tshirt and pulled me close to him, like super close to his face.

It was ever so slightly awkward to be hit on by a guy with 20 years up on me, while not even giving him any indication that I wanted anything other than a normal small talk conversation, even if we were to ignore the age gap.

[–] Zephorah@discuss.online 19 points 4 hours ago (2 children)

I hope you got away ok. Creepy pedo move on his part.

[–] SlayersFan@lemmy.world 13 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

We were on a queue with 100+ other people, nothing crazy was gonna happen, I understand how a guy might be into someone younger and cuter, but one thing is that, and another way different is to act on such an impulse, ignoring all common sense.

Not defending pedos cause they are creepy as fuck, met my fair share on IRC back in the day, but you have to be a special kind of person not only to be into kids, but to openly put your hands on someone in a completely public space where everyone is actively seeing what you are doing.

[–] Zephorah@discuss.online 8 points 4 hours ago

Agreed. Putting hands on anyone without permission is bad enough. Context here makes it that much worse.

[–] BurgerBaron@quokk.au 10 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Common (anime) convention experience I'm sure. When I was 15 years younger, they hosted an anime convention at a local college and attendees would rent the dorm rooms during the summer. After official events for the evening ended, the DJ kept going in a dorm study room. Every stereotype occurred. Rank B.O. in a room too small and not ventilated for the amount of people in it at 2AM with underage girls trying to get picked up by any guy willing to cross that line. Fucking gross 🤢.

[–] Zephorah@discuss.online 11 points 4 hours ago

There were girls back in my youth, the 80s and 90s, who legit believed an older guy hitting on them was a mark of their maturity.

I’d like to think that died alongside smoking indoors, but clearly not. It’s men who are censured by women their own age because they lack that much value and appeal as an individual. They’re looking for someone too new at life to see them.