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About a decade ago, a conservative coworker asked me out after complaining about trans people in bathrooms and calling us predators.

I'm trans

Work in EMS. Some guy tried to get my number while I was driving to the hospital with him in the passenger seat and my paramedic, his girlfriend, and sick baby in the back of the ambulance.

You lot get hit on?

I was 15 years old and on a schooltrip to Berlin. We smoked some weed at the hostel and i got high as fuck. I stepped into the elevator to go to my room to chill and this girl from a different class followed me. In the elevator she straight up asked me if i would like to go to her bunk for some fun and i was like "nah, im too high for that right now." i was such a dumbass in my teens.

I had a drunk sunburned warty redneck try to give me a ride in his pickup truck. We were riding the tram back to the Disney World parking lot. He was very loud and insistent, much to the horror of the rest of the high school marching band mates around us, but he left without incident before we had gotten back to our buses. Someone let me know after he left that his fly had been open the entire time.

It was a very confusing experience for 16 year old introverted (male) me.

I had a stalker in high school. It really sucked, but because she was a girl and I was a guy, it was 'cute' not creepy or scary, but what was so much worse was how people reacted to it, for many friends/teachers they goaded it on. Even when she sent threatening letters to one of my girlfriends. She was the only one who didn't think it was cute...

My first lesson in how insanely sexist the vast majority of people are. If i had done to a girl the type of stuff she did to me, I'd have been jailed. It went on and off for over two years.

On the flip sided, years later, she wrote me a random email and apologized profusely and thanked me for not taking advantage of her. So at least she got some help I guess?

I've had other incidents with mentally unwell women harassing me during the rest of my life, but none as involved or protracted as that one.

Maybe not the worst, but I called into HP server tech support and the girl on the other end was chatty. I wasn’t too busy and she talked me up for nearly an hour and a half, at the end asking if I was single and lived near Michigan.

Good on her for shooting her shot.

So this is pretty dark. My cousin committed suicide and at his funeral his roommate was trying to flirt with me and asked me out. Not at the wake, at the actual funeral service.

The most generous reasoning I could come up with for him was that he was very upset and alone and wanted to be comforted but he sure didn't seem upset.

Some guy speaking to me was a bit uncomfortable because he kept getting very close. The conversation seemed normal until he asked what I think of black people, which I thought was kind of weird. Only much later I realized he was hitting on me and he meant to ask if I'm physically attracted to him, a black guy. Nobody ever flirted with me before and I definitely didn't expect it from a guy so it was much later when I realized what happened

I was around 15 years old, in an anime convention, while waiting on queue and nervous, I started talking to the guy next to me, he was around 30-35. I don't remember the details but we ended up on the topic of the anime Kuroshitsuji for some reason, and while explaining something about that show or another anime (can't remember as it's been a long time) he grabbed my tshirt and pulled me close to him, like super close to his face.

It was ever so slightly awkward to be hit on by a guy with 20 years up on me, while not even giving him any indication that I wanted anything other than a normal small talk conversation, even if we were to ignore the age gap.

For me basically any time and place because I’m an idiot and do not understand when a woman is flirting with me. Except the one time I DID realize a girl was flirting with me but I was already in a relationship.

There was an ex-friend whom would always follow me around, and before a quiz I had been studying for days by doing programming exercises, while he played on his phone or scrolled TikTok.

He tried confessing after bragging how he didn't get caught cheating using AI on the test (as many were), right after I used like 100% of my brainpower to do what I could on that test. I could only reject him and was not able to give my full reasoning as to why I couldn't enter into a relationship as I had to enter a bus because we were at the bus stop.

Some weeks later he started not giving a shit about me, started doing this weird thing where he would wait for me to finish a quiz before passing his own and then he'll try to walk fast ahead in front of me and not stopping to talk as we did, when it started getting clear I wouldn't get into a relationship. Unfriended me on facebook and I never saw him after the end of the school.

'twas fucking horrible, when I already told him I had trauma from being suddenly abandoned by my friends. I only wish I never knew him at all, what a waste of time and I never learned anything, only had my trauma reinforced. I have never felt so much hatred and loathing in my life, and I understood why Dante put the sin of being a traitor at the lowest circle of hell.

Two come to mind.

I was twelve, but most people thought I was ~16 due to my height and the fact that I had hit puberty at 10, so I was definitely developed. As I am walking home (three mile walk to school) a highschool girl sees me, quickly crosses the street and begins to chat me up. After a few minutes she finally asks what grade I was in. After I told her, she went quiet and quickly picked up her pace, eventually crossing the street again. I still find that funny.

The second was in 2010, during my grandmothers wake. I did not find that funny.

I was in the kiddie psych ward once when I was 12. The place was empty except for me and this girl. She sat next to me and was talking to me and touching me when I was in really a totally awful state.

After I got out of the kiddie psych ward I was mandated to go to therapy every week. In the waiting room of the place was girl who knew my name from me being called in and kept trying to talk to me and touch me meanwhile I was in no mood because those therapy sessions were awful and I dreaded them.

I don't have too many stories of being hit on in weird places? I guess the closest one I have was from a guy on an anonymous chatting site thingy (sorta like omegle, but that one was less cancerous). Anywho, it was a guy I talked to for a while, mostly about our respective countries and whatever, and then he went full "I think you're my soulmate, and I really want to meet you" on me. I mean I basically just said 1. we just met, and 2. We've barely met at all, we know nothing about each other. But he just kept going x3. Eventually I just said I needed to go, and dipped the fuck out of that convo