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How old is too old to have kids, in your opinion? (feddit.uk)

submitted 1 day ago by calmocean@feddit.uk to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I’m 31, my husband is 51, and lately I’ve been feeling some baby fever. For the record, kids aren’t a must for me, I’m genuinely happy with or without them, but I think it would be nice to experience that journey. My husband is hesitant, though. Even though he’s very healthy, active, and energetic, he feels like having a child in his 50s might be too late. He also already has a 27-year-old son, and he worries that the big age gap between siblings would feel strange.

I guess I’m just looking to hear what others think about this situation.

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[–] originalucifer@moist.catsweat.com -1 points 1 day ago (2 children)

i think 35 is a good hard stop, and honestly, this should be more your decision to make than his. he should have understood marrying someone so much younger might bring this possibility.

the age difference in siblings is irrelevant... at least to the kids. not sure why he would feel 'strange'

i say go for it. youre only here once.

[–] Mobiuthuselah@mander.xyz 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Why wouldn't it be an equal decision that the two of them come to together?

[–] originalucifer@moist.catsweat.com 1 points 1 day ago

it should be, but it really doesnt sound like hes taking her experience seriously.

[–] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

i think 35 is a good hard stop

Well, I can tell from personal experience that it isn't a hard stop

[–] originalucifer@moist.catsweat.com 4 points 1 day ago

its about risk not functionality.