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I’m 31, my husband is 51, and lately I’ve been feeling some baby fever. For the record, kids aren’t a must for me, I’m genuinely happy with or without them, but I think it would be nice to experience that journey. My husband is hesitant, though. Even though he’s very healthy, active, and energetic, he feels like having a child in his 50s might be too late. He also already has a 27-year-old son, and he worries that the big age gap between siblings would feel strange.

I guess I’m just looking to hear what others think about this situation.

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[–] nyctre@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Okay, yeah, I see what you mean. I was thinking on the scale of this thread not the whole sociological perspective. And you're right, they were probably not thinking of adoption like I was. Altho to link it to a guy who endorses the forced extinction of all life on Earth is a bit of a stretch, imo. Those people don't care about overpopulation... they would think that even if there were only 100 million of us on earth.

There's a difference between saying that more people should use contraceptives and promoting genocide, imo.

[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I just think it speaks to a pervasive and anti-science opinion that's taken over what are otherwise progressive spaces. Even in the replies to my comment someone is conflating my opinion with being fine with climate change and mass extinctions. Anti-natalism is also often tied to racism. Or has foundations in the capitalist status quo, excusing food wastage, like we don't have more than enough land to feed everyone on the planet while people starve.

[–] nyctre@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

Yeah, that's fair. We need better education across the board. Should be everyone's main focus.