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Everyone regardless of victim status should use the tools available to protect their personal information online.
If someone is publishing your personal information without your consent, local laws and regulations may apply. You kinda have to be lucky with police and the legal system to take you seriously though.
No, no one should feel the need to make their socials private because someone is being an asshole.
This is like saying you dont need to look both ways before crossing the street when you have the crossing signal. Sure, you might be correct but that doesn't protect you when you get hit by a car.
You need to practice making comparisons. No, that's nowhere near the same thing.
Here's a better one: -"Stop wearing short skirts if men are cat calling you"
Yeah, no.
It's reasonable advice, if you are sure that not wearing short skirts results in less cat-calling. The societal solution is to discourage cat-calling in whatever way. But if a particular individual doesn't want to be cat called more than they want to wear short skirts, then the solution is obvious.
This is similar advice to "if someone is trying to mug you, just give them your wallet so you don't get stabbed." Certainly there should be a larger discussion about decreasing the amount of muggings - but for the particular individual in a particular circumstance, they should take the action that is in their immediate self interest.
No, it's not. Please tell me you're not a parent.
So lets hear your solution to the problem if you feel your idealist approach is the most effective way to deal with this.
Let me guess, you'll suggest going to the police who won't actually do anything or pay thousands of dollars to hire a lawyer who may or may not be able to accomplish something after months of time and a bunch of court hearings. Maybe even loudly announcing to this mentality ill individual that their behavior is wrong forcing them to back down as everyone around claps for OP? Yeah I'm not so sure that's how things work in the real world.
Nobody is blaming the victim here but we don't live in a fairytale world where good always triumphs over evil and justice is always served. You need to do what you can to protect yourself and we're simply offering real solutions.
Yeah, you go to the police and fheir hosting provider. At no point do you teach women that the right action when bullied is for them to take a step back and be quiet.
Care to point out where anyone said "this woman needs to step back and be quiet," or does your whole argument hinge on this strawman?
That's what "change your socials to private" means. To verify this, ask yourself why yours aren't.
The few I have are set to private actually because there's zero reason to expose personal information to a bunch of strangers.
No, your posts here are public.
🙄 We're all anonymous here.
I find it better to always post under my real name rather than believe I'll manage to stay anonymous whilst discussing everyday things on social media. At some point someone will connect that Toyota Camry driving person in Oregon who works at a place that has just had a bunch of layoffs with that nickname and then you'll have to rethink everything you've posted.
Victims aren't the ones that need to close down and stay quiet. The perpetrators are.
So your real name is "troed?" Is that a single name like "Cher?"
Funny that you take the idealist approach while committing the very act that you're railing against as if your whole argument is worthless. Should I call the police on you and report you to fedia.io as you suggested someone do when dealing with an unhinged individual like yourself?
It's indeed - and unique enough that you should be able to find me in seconds.
Feel free to call the Swedish police and tell them that you don't like my arguments. Or for that matter, Jerry (who runs fedia.io).
I guess you realized you couldn't counter my actual point.
What's your point, that you'll gladly sacrifice your stated beliefs, completely contradicting everything you said previously, if you think it will help you win an argument? You should be a politician.
It's hilarious how flippant you are here about calling the police or "Jerry" when you were previously so adamant about that being the best way for this woman to protect herself, proving exactly why that was a nonsense solution to begin with. Congratulations for completely demolishing your argument all on your own.
I'm not sure you've understood what you've read so far.
I've understood it quite well thank you. I would also be quite embarrassed making a chain of comments like yours, so I also understand why you're now deflecting away from the topic and pretending like we're talking about something else.
Ah ok. It looked like you tried to claim that reciting three facts from your public comments here was in anyway similar to what the topic of the thread is about - but I agree that even an american can't be that ignorant.
I'm really interested in hearing your explanation for how it's any different.
OP claims this stalker is also reciting facts from their public comments in an attempt to antagonize them too. I suppose you feel it's okay for you to do it though since you seem to think you're on some sort of moral high ground and "it's different when I do it," "this person really deserves it," or whatever justification you need to tell yourself to clear the cognitive dissonance.
You might need to retake English classes.
My socials are set to private for lots of reasons - situations like this being just one. Pretty much everyone I know also has them set to private. Its just smart
In a world where justice is guaranteed, you'd be right. But we're not living in a fairy tale, and keeping all your data public is not bringing us closer to that utopia, so what's the point?
I live in a country where all data is public. We're good, thanks.
What the fuck does that even mean?
You want someone's personal number (americans, think social security number) - call the tax authority and ask for it. While at it, ask how much their declared income is and where they live.
All public information. And our society is most definitely a fairy tale utopia compared to the US.
I'm going to assume that that personal number is not used for identification then. But the information you name are not really relevant for the kind at stalking that OP describes. It's not like the are no stalkers in Sweden.
Agreed, not just because someone is being an asshole. Everyone should feel the need to protect their personal information, because the world is full of assholes of different levels and your personal information being publicly available can only cause harm to you. It really is as simple as setting your profile to "friends only" to counter the lowest level of assholes.