No Stupid Questions

Sometimes. But, if you aren’t really into it and no lubricant is used, it does not feel good and can hurt. Men don’t seem to notice. My partner can’t tell the difference until I stop him.

That’s not including things like endometriosis and other health issues that make sex painful for women.

Additionally women experience different levels of pain. Getting the IUD hurt so much I vomited in the parking lot. My doctor told me women who have given birth don’t have as much trouble with it than women who haven’t. They told me to take an ibuprofen before my appointment. That did about as much good as doing nothing at all.

Yes, women do very much enjoy sex. Pleasure and pain can be mixed in enjoyable ways during sex, but no, it is not normal to experience pain during sex, nor is it required. You have to be lubricated enough. At the doctor, they will use their own lubricant, but having a stranger examine you is one of the least sexy experiences out there, and they use a somewhat sharp, cold metal instrument to stretch and hold you open beyond what inserting a penis would do. So it is not surprising that it hurts and is uncomfortable. Sticking something inside yourself "cold" with no buildup or sexual desire will have a similar effect. It is not a pocket.

A few things:

Since it appears you have not had sex before and don't use sex toys very much, you probably still have your hymen intact. This is a membrane that will eventually be torn by inserting something. Sometimes this is a bit painful, sometimes it bleeds, sometimes you don't even notice. Once that is out of the way, you should be good to go.

Key word being "should". It is always possible that you have a condition such as vaginismus, which causes unusual pain. If so, there are types of physical therapy that can help or overcome it. Talk to your doctor if you are concerned. Tip: you may want to bring a man with you, even if it is your dad. Vagina stuff is often not taken seriously by doctors. It is dumb but I don't make the rules, just stating facts.

In my experience they do.

I swear I saw exactly that post a few weeks ago...

Have you had pleasure from other types of stimulation, other than penetrative?

Women scream in porn. If sex is painful for you, you should see an obgyn

One reason im with my wife is her apparent love of sex. Its funny I knew guys who believed there were two types of women. the marrying kind and the ones you had fun with. I believed the same thing but it was only one type of woman.

The women that have slept with me seemed to. 🤷‍♂️

I am pretty sure you shouldn't be feeling intense pain putting things in a place at least 1 thing was intended to go. Have you talked to a gynecologist about this?

Not a woman but I’ve picked up the following:

1. Some women do enjoy it. Some woman orgasm easily and others it takes time to get comfortable enough to do so. Some not at all. Personally I think it’s the ones who masterbate regularly, they seem more comfortable and seem to know how to get there. The only tells I’ve learned that I can trust as a man are if they get really flushed, if you can feel them spasm quick and hard, or if they squirt or get really wet. Everything else can be faked. Some woman don’t orgasm all the time but claim it just feels good.

2. Some Woman fake it… a lot. the yelling is likely faking it unless you see any of the signs from #1. In my experience and conversations it’s usually one night stands or maybe a partner they are particularly interested in, I’ve had female partners and friends tell me it’s usually to try and leave an impression. But woman do it for many reasons. Some are silent if there are other people in the same dwelling who might hear it, but let loose and get if they know they have privacy.

3. If you are curious, I’d recommend speaking to a doctor if you don’t enjoy it at all and want to change your situation.

As a bottom I can give you one rule: penetrative sex of any kind is not supposed to be painful.

If it is then there's usually a diagnosable problem to fix. It's not always physical it can be really spiritual. I struggle with bottoming usually because I need to like the person I'm with enough to relax, it's called being demi-sexual.

I feel like tops of any sexuality don't really grok how intense of an experience it is to let someone into your own body such that when they're in they don't know how to respect what's in there. Sometimes it does get so intense that it comes out of your voice, sometimes for me at least it gets too intense and I'm not sure if it feels good or bad so I need my top to slow down and let me figure out how things got rearranged.

Lastly, porn recorded by total nobodys on a webcam or iPhone is just barely grazing the boundary of reality. So if you're not vocal, you don't scream, then you just don't like that just not you.

Trans or cis?