Yeah, shit does suck and having financial security is better therapy than therapy.
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But if that was true Elon would be the happiest person on earth.
Offer valid only up to $150k, turns out. After that, it starts going downhill.
*different cities may experience slightly higher or lower values, terms and conditions apply
After that, it starts going downhill.
No study suggests this. It keeps going up - you're just hitting diminishing returns.
There’s a trillionaire that is desperate to get into pedophile parties, and between him and the common person, there’s a lot of millionaires and billionaires in those pedophile parties, so there’s clearly a downward trending curve.
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Having financial security eases with financial worries to an extent but doesn't entirely solve even that issue nor does it even begin to deal with the unrelated issues. One can be financially secure and absolutely miserable.
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"It all started the day I was born and then things went rapidly downhill from there."
In the beginning the Universe was created. This has made a lot of people very angry and been widely regarded as a bad move.
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There's a few studies that link low self esteem and depression with accurate understanding of the world and oneself. Lookup depressive realism. It's actually mildly depressing!
Incidentally, using high self esteem may also lead to looking down on others, defensiveness, inability to critically analyze oneself, among other things. That's just kinda how it goes when you think highly of yourself...
Sounds like a very mild case of "billionaire syndrome"
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I was in my 40s when I realized that the thing that gave me severe depression for over 25 years was capitalism. Even as a teenager I could not comprehend why anyone would go to school so they could get a job so they could hopefully pay the bank the rest of their lives so they can mow grass.
Yup and patriarchy. My father is low functioning and constantly has temper tantrums/outbursts, and it baffled me why the family was run by him. If he was a woman he wouldn’t be the head of anything.
Re capitalism, I never understood why people wanted to have a house and car. It also doesn’t make sense to have most of your assets sitting in real estate and not diversified.
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lemmy will have you thinking everything sucks though. this is one of the most intense doomer spaces i've ever seen..
Not even close to as bad as Reddit. Have you opened that recently...? I can't scroll more than 4 or 5 posts before I have to nope out of there because I can feel the ragebait radiating from my phone.
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When I was a tween my family moved from Connecticut to Florida.
For a long time I was really depressed to the point where they thought I had Mononucleosis or I might need antidepressants.
Turns out I was just hot. It's fucking hot in Florida. I was hot. I just didn't understand why I felt so shitty, because I had never really experienced oppressive Florida heat and humidity.
Sometimes there are actual reasons and feeling depressed isn't coming from inside you.
Ain't that something, When you open your car door and it's as if you were baking something, except they smell like steamy mildew, but that sweet hot heat blasts you in the face and it makes you think of the terminator movie.
I was pretty sure I was having a depression moment and the medical people told me it was anxiety. Feels depressing either way.
Two sides of the same coin IMO.
If you're feeling super sad it's natural to worry too much that something else will happen to make you more sad.
You might say, anxiety is a symptom of depression, and depression is also a symptom of anxiety.
That said, while the medications for both are the same, the therapy is not.
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Oh have I got great news for you! Both are actually true!
Score!
My wife would tell me I'm depressed, and I'd agree about that.
However, she thought I should get meds, and I thought I should only get medicated for depression if the depression was chemical.
If you're depressed because life sucks, then you should be motivated to fix what sucks. Unfortunately, that's not how depression works.
Luckily, life started to suck slightly less.
One aspect that I think most don't talk about enough is functional disorders.
Like way back in the day, depression was seen as a sign of weakness and a character flaw. Then we swung real hard to the opposite end and said that depression is completely outside of your control and is just a physical chemical imbalance. And while it certainly can be influenced by inherent brain chemistry, this is still not a particularly holistic understanding of it.
Many disorders, both physical and mental, can instead be thought of as functional disorders that act more like feedback loops. Think about something like tendonitis, it causes swelling, which causes more rubbing, which causes more tendonitis.... Depression amongst many other mental health issues, can function similarly. It saps your motivation which can prevent you from doing stuff or taking action, which makes you more depressed.
Anti-depressants can help you break this loop, but it's also entirely possible for anti-depressants to just 'even you out' enough that you feel no reason to break the loop or make any changes, and then you just end up stuck in the same loop, and just kind of end up numb to everything as a best case scenario.
The research on the long term effectiveness of anti-depressants for relatively mild - mid cases of depression is also still up for debate. A recent Australian public health report was pointing out that most studies measuring the effectiveness sof long term anti-depressant use measure the negative effects from stopping them, but many of these effects are just withdrawal, and once you control for that, they don't look more effective than therapy, but come with a slew of negative side effects.
In my case, having my manager quit did more for my depression than any pill could do.
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My brain to me: Sounds like you need a drink buddy.
Me: I dunno, liver, what's your take?
Liver: Fuck it man, take that drink.
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Why not both - my brain
So, there's a dark joke about why ECT (Electro Convulsive Therapy) is (mostly temporarily) effective in treatment of depression.
First, you should know, ECT has a strong side effect of amnesia, mostly temporary amnesia.
So, you get ECT, you forget why (you think) your life sucks and your outlook on everything improves, depressive symptoms fade - until your memory comes back.
People in all walks of life get serious depression, including high rates of suicide.
What you gotta ask yourself though: If it is really, that everything just sucks so bad, then why isn't everybody depressed.
I mean, I don't even disagree. Everything indeed does suck so bad. But there's a surprising number of people, that seem to cope with that fact way better than I do.
Turns out, I actually do have depression. If you suspect, that you do too: seek help. It won't change that everything sucks so bad. But I already learned to cope a little better, and I hope you can, too.
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When depression is having a bad day, it says it feels like me.
“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” J. Krishnamurty
This is both my biggest love of, and gripe with, Slavs.
"Why smile? Everything is shit? Look around!"
But also, the world is amazing AF if you look around. There's joy and love in anything and everything of you choose to look for joy and love.
But also, everything is fucked, so let's drink rakja until we don't feel feelings.
But also, flowers and sunsets.
Sane response to an insane world...
Getting on the eightfold path has changed my worldview and mood for the better. True story.
Edit to add: But even before that, just going anti-consumerist gave my mood a healthy boost. When I stopped buying shit, I stopped wanting shit. Felt good.
you can have depression from outside causes. some of it will be internal. I have major depressive and general anxiety. I don't think current events created it but they did push it to where it is not manageable by me with things like walks and breathing excersises.
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currently testing out of a new depression med bc the last one stopped working. this one doesnt work so onto my 7th attempt. when do i get to stop trying meds and just kms already without being made to feel like i'm doing something wrong
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My senior year quote was from Doctor Who Matt Smith era, I think its a Christmas special or something. It goes "Why do you make them happy when they're going to be sad later?" Rory or River asks, the Doctor replies, "Because they going to be sad later ". I'm probably forgetting the exact wording the episode aired 13 or 14 years ago.
I keep it from bothering me by rationalizing that now is an age for warriors and strong men and women.
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