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I moved 100 miles, from one city to another in the same US state. Now I can't find good chinese food to save my life... Panda Express is unfortunately the best I can find.
When I moved from the Northwoods of Wisconsin to Los Angeles (Burbank), a lot of changes were to be expected... The one I didn't expect was the total lack of thunder n lightning despite rain storms that would flood the streets. I think I was out here at least 6 years before I heard any thunder and that was a one-time event. Been here for almost 29 yrs now, and I can probably count the number on one hand.
Moved from the south to the Midwest and my mouth still orders "unsweet tea". Some waitstaff have no idea what I mean.
If you don't specify in the south you get diabetea.
What is unsweet tea?
The opposite of sweet tea.
So like, regular tea?
In the US many restaurants serve iced tea. In the south they make iced tea with way too much sugar in it, so if you just order iced tea they'll ask "sweet or unsweet".
Moved from Midwest to West to South. In the South, they use "How are ya?" as a greeting. I was not aware. So for the first few weeks/months, I was answering them honestly and just loving how friendly everyone was!
Took me a while to understand you're just supposed to say "Good-n-you?"
Felt like a fuckin idiot.
How convenient places are near me. Where I was, I had to drive 45 miles out and back to get anywhere. Now for a while, everything is 5 - 10 minutes. Chump change for miles and yeah if I really do want to broaden my exploration, can go a bit further, but not when I need something as before.
I walk a lot more now that the nearest store is across the street and not 3 miles away.
The culture of right of way between pedestrians and cars. Where I grew up, you could walk out to the double yellow and stand there and cars wouldn't give a shit. They'd just keep driving and expect you to stay out of the way.
Now where I live, if you just glance at a car when you're walking they'll stop where they are to let you cross.
It all gets very confusing for a pedestrian when you also get out of town drivers that don't adhere to that same culture.
That annoys me when cars clearly have the right of way or stop before I'm even close to crossing the road. They could be already past by the time I get there, but they stop anyway. If you keep driving and I keep walking nobody will disturb the other.
Yeah it’s surprising how opposite it can be.
The other day I was walking my dog and I have to be careful to face away from the street because people keep stopping for us to cross when she’s just sniffing at something.
Then we actually did cross the street at an all way stop intersection, and cars came to a stop in all directions! However we got halfway across and a new car came around the bend and almost hit us. Despite the stop sign. Despite all other cars already stopped. Despite me and the dog in the crosswalk
Eye contact / greetings between strangers
*in the USA
I'm originally from the south where everyone wears plastic smiles and waves in passing and all that.
Then I went to the northeast where it's more eyes on the horizon. A smile and a wave is met with a raised eyebrow or a sneer, and friends commonly show their comfort with each other using insults.
Then out to the midwest where zero eye contact gets you stared at, but heavy eye contact is taken as a challenge. It has to be just the right amount, and I'm still trying to figure it out after years.
you are getting sneers and glares from NorthEast USA because we hate fake pleasantries/smiles and southern nazis.
Many people don't make eye contact any longer. Things have changed.
South, northeast and midwest of the USA
Yes. I debated whether I should specify or if it'd sound dumb / be obvious.
Now I see I should have, since I made Rothe sad
The amount of US defaultism on lemmy saddens me. I thought I had mostly left that behind on reddit those years ago.
I don't live terribly far from where I grew up. I have seen so many snakes in my neighborhood. Growing up I knew what a snake was but never really saw any. I had to mow my lawn slower the other day because I saw two snakes in the grass.
Since physical places wasn’t specified, how much nicer the threadiverse (Lemmy) is compared to Reddit, way less toxic from my experience.
Vancouver/Edmonton to Australia (Sydney then southwest Victoria).
It gets properly cold here - it's not hot an sunny everyday like they advertise to us overseas. Aussies also don't use insulation in their houses so having to deal with single digit temperatures inside the house makes me die a little everyday.
Single digits in Celsius though, right?
Does it even still get to more than -12c/9f in the skiing towns over there?
Colder than Edmonton :?
Dont use insulation??
There are minimum standards....now. That builders and developers were dragged kicking and screaming to ("just throw another reverse cycle aircon on mate, she'll be right").
I've never lived in an insulated house. I've never lived more south than the subtropics and the coldest a house had been inside is 6 degrees C with a floor surface probably lower than that. The people down south towards have probably suffered more than me in some homes.
moving from SA to Europe, I did not expect that I could feel hotter in Europe. I was naively expecting 4 months of snow coverage
Welcome to the continent that is heating up twice as fast as the rest of the world lol
The way it changed my mental perception of how far apart buildings are. I moved from North Carolina to Massachusetts, and distinctly remember that the first time I went back to visit the city I grew up in, I had a reaction along the lines of "wtf, did like a bomb go off here or something?" upon seeing it, because I'd become used to buildings being taller and closer together and suddenly by contrast the parking lots with scattered short buildings and wide roads reminded me of those pictures you see of cities after a war or disaster, where there'll be a few buildings relatively intact looking surrounded by flattened grey.
Every time I go back there now, I get a really eerie feeling because even though for the most part, the buildings haven't changed at all, the place feels as if they have, like everything has been squashed vertically and stretched horizontally.
I didn't expect the trees to scream at me
Summer cicadas?
Yup.
Stopped drinking almost entirely, because moving also meant finding new friends (who prefer other activities than drinking).
