"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."
Clubs? Are we in the 90ies?
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Imagine if the genders were swapped in this situation
This is fucked up.
Tea just suffered a massive data leak
Yeah that's what the article is about
Kinda wild that app stores allow something like that. I wonder how long it'll take for someone to build the same up, but with the roles reversed: Men anonymously talking about local women 😬
Of course they would. It's only allowed as long as the genders aren't flipped.
In theory it should be fine the problem is women always assume bad intent on the part of men, and good intent on the part of other women despite a fairly obvious fact that that's ridiculous.
The problem is there doesn't seem to be any system in place for review or correction. What if there someone who just doesn't like me and posts photos and lies about me? Not only would I have no opportunity to correct the record, but unless someone I knew who was on the app told me about it, I wouldn't even know because men aren't allowed on.
As someone who's stayed away from creating accounts like Facebook the concept of being encouraged to share photos and real identities of people who haven't consented to being on the social media site is really creepy to me.
Its like some random social media account shows up and you never signed up but a profile for you has already been made and has all these photos you never even shared on there because someone chose to upload them in your place.
I'd rather people choose not to associate with people who don't have an account that has vetted on safety than be opted into something like this without choice.
This kind of thing has been done before.
For example:
From the first one
One profile the New Times uncovered supposedly of a philandering ex-boyfriend was actually a gay man who had spurned a woman's advances.
There's no way a libel database could be a bad business model
This is psychotic.
Oh great another centralized repository of data about people (uploaded without their knowledge or consent in the case of the men) that definitely won't be abused by bad actors
Anddddd......., it's already been breached: https://www.404media.co/women-dating-safety-app-tea-breached-users-ids-posted-to-4chan/
It's even mentioned at the top of the linked article.
Tea, which topped the Apple App Store charts this week — shortly before the app was hacked.
This post is directly under a post about the breach in my feed.
Oooooooooof
Saw that coming.
Someone saw that Black Mirror episode and said “Let’s make that for real.”
I think you mean that Community episode.
Creating a digital social hierarchy was on my 2030 bingo card... dang.
Huh...
Part of these types of things generally seem like a well-intentioned idea, but it's also so creepy, scammy, and gross. This data won't stop here by any means, and will be sold or used in a million different even shittier ways. Pretty fucked.
It's fine, no reason to sell the data, the service was literally just breached!
Don't these companies know how to properly configure a database? This seemed like it was completely preventable.
Starting salary for a cyber security expert is around 70,000€ and that's for someone who's relatively inexperienced so you would probably want to pay more like 90,000€, for these startups that's seven or eight employees worth of salary and they don't want to pay it.
The problem is it leads to things like this happening which kills their entire company.
Or they could do what they're doing now which is work with a consultancy company which doesn't cost anywhere near as much money but still costs quite a bit.
Lots of breaches are entirely preventable, but lots of companies don't like to pay for qualified employees that could prevent them.
They don't care. It's not their information and there are no consequences.
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What a weird place some societies have come to.
Using technology as a surrogate for community.
There is no way this would get abused by threat actors and mentally unstable types!
“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.
"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."
That illustrates the big problem...
Some guys are lying assholes and horrible people, but so are some women.
It's not going to take long for them to get massively sued, there's no way they're vetting the posted info, and it's literally cyber bullying.
The guy (yes it's a guy) who made and owns this is a fucking idiot for not seeing the lawsuits coming.
Outside of the crap going on in the US fascist resurgence, women are generally defined as a minority that requires equity / special benefits and protections. Making an app to "protect women" by crowdsourcing information about potentially predatory / negative men is viewed as 'good', and would likely be 'ok' by many western country standards.
Making an app about women, with similar 'experiences' reported by guys, would be considered predatory, and would get shut down.
We can already see plenty of related things out and about -- like "women only" companies getting applauded by govt / media, while the same sources shame any business that doesn't attempt to get 50%+ women on staff. We shut down gentlemen's clubs for being discriminatory, but we cheer women's only spaces. Genders are not treated equally in the public's eye, and it generally skews in favour of benefiting women at this point, especially once it hits media/govt/courts.
I think this is the more realistic take on how it'd play out.
Some guys are lying assholes and horrible people, but so are some women.
and some guys anonymously posing as women online to undermine the competition.
Lol, reminds me of a different thread about trump pretending to be a woman and writing into newspapers:
“Based on the fact that I work for Donald Trump as his secretary—and therefore know him well—I think he treats women with great respect, contrary to what Julie Baumgold implied in her article … I do not believe any man in America gets more calls from women wanting to see him, meet him, or go out with him. The most beautiful women, the most successful women—all women love Donald Trump.”
Carolin Gallego December 7, 1992. (Not a realperson)
https://mashable.com/article/donald-trump-carolin-gallego-new-york-magazine-letter
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Did he use GPT?
says right at the end: this is from 1992
If I was going to make something like this, it would have to incorporate trust chains. I don't care if some maga-hat says this lady is horrible. I care if my good friend Alex says she's horrible. One person's "this person won't shut up about communism" is a big red flag (no pun intended) but for someone else that's the dream.
When you sign up, you'd need to be referred to someone or be a root node. Anyone connected to you can be weighted differently. If some section of the tree is misbehaving, prune it.
But that's a lot of work
Same thing should be done with product reviews, and social media comments, etc., etc.
Really if someone makes a robust way to have a trust chain that integrates into the Internet at large, that would prevent a whole universe of problems we have in modern society.
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Friendly reminder that Facebook started as FaceMash, an app for men at Harvard to rate the attractiveness of women.
Both are bad. At least these women are nominally using it for safety and not just looks rating.
Finally, I would be really darn cautious of using any app like FaceMash or Tea. Seems like a great way to get sued for defamation. Or to become the target of escalated behavior of one of the bad ones.
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