who's pretending they aren't broke?
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What's important is how much you can buy, not how much money you have.
I know that I'm broke and I'll be working until I either go senile or die. It took me too long to start figuring things out.
And that you were never taught better was intentional.
Debt, used properly, makes you wealthy. Every billionaire you know has debt because of the advantages.
I grew up middle class. To afford my prestigeous university, I took out debt (before grant only financial aid). The value of my education allowed me to earn a higher salary to pay it off in two years. I kept earning that salary and more after the debt was paid. It had a high present value.
I bought my latest house four years ago. Mortgage rates were so low I decided to finance part of it at 2% even though I had the cash. I now earn 4.5% in money markets. After taxes, I earn 0.72% every year not to pay off my mortgage. With $350,000 remaining, this is an extra $2,500/year right now.
I shop with credit cards that give me 2-5% back on purchases. I pay off my balance every month and have never paid one penny in interest or penalties in over a decade. My credit cards therefore pay ~$1,500/year tax free.
Larry Ellison likes controlling Oracle and being a billionaire. Rather than selling stock of Oracle to fund his lifestyle, he instead borrows against the value of the stock. As Oracle appreciated, he got to keep the gains he doesn't trigger capital gains taxes.
Most Americans do live paycheck to paycheck. They live at the ragged edge of their means and remain ignorant of finance. However, this is a global phenomenon. The difference is that much of the United States tax code is set up to benefit the wealthy. Adopt their habits and your wealth starts to snowball.
I don't know anyone pretending they aren't broke in America...I know a lot of good people struggling paycheck to paycheck and that's it. I love how Lemmy has become this echo chamber of hate for Americans when y'all are just as fucked in Europe and other countries too with so many similar or different issues. Imagine a little compassion for all people rather than assuming "America bad because America". Just so incredibly sad and stupid to see how dumb so many people are.. that kind of thought process is exactly the same type of people that vote for trump that have this same attitude about "insert race or country here". Y'all need a reality check, yesterday...
Debt is not a broke person thing. Most people you'd consider to be well off have debt.
Americans dont feel broke because they have extremely strong purchasing power.
I think most americans identify with the book cover, and not the book.
It's just temporary trust me.
Tonight is the night, I'm going to sleep and have 🗽the American Dream ™️ 🦅
Being in debt isn't synonymous with being broke.
I could pay off my house tomorrow if I wanted, but financially it doesn’t make sense - so I keep the debt. That doesn’t mean my net worth is negative or that I don’t have disposable income.
I wish I had learned this nuance earlier. I started out throwing all the money I could at whatever I was trying to pay off as fast as possible because I had it hammered into me as a child that all debt is a personal moral failing.
I've since learned that having cash on hand and a relatively low interest loan like a mortgage or a car loan, is better than a slightly lower balance on said loan and having to use a high interest credit card when an emergency inevitably pops up because I didn't have any cash.
Sorry, I'm dense. For me being in debt and paying off something like a loan on a house has the purpose of paying something you do not have the funds for to pay off in one go. Seeing as the longer you take paying it off, the more you actually pay since rates increase or whatever, depends on contract specififcs.
How is it not a smart thing for you? Is this about US credit rating system or something else.
Edit: thanks to all replies, not gonna spam thank yous to you all. Didn't consider those options.
Besides what others have said, there is a mortgage interest deduction on taxes in the US. It’s basically the government saying “we want you to buy a house, so for the interest you pay on a home loan, you don’t have to pay taxes on it.” So combine that with a low rate, and it absolutely makes sense to have that debt and put the money to work elsewhere.
That is still technically true, but it requires filing your taxes with "itemized deductions" wherein you provide a complete list of all the things that you can deduct from your taxable income before calculating the tax owed. Stuff like mortgage interest, charitable donations, medical and education expenses. Back in 2013 up to 30% of tax filers did that. Mostly this was done by higher income people who had enough income and deductions to put them over the default standard deduction.
The "standard deduction" was increased in big changes to our taxes in 2018, and since then only about 10% of filers itemized. So mortgage interest isn't usually paid with pre-tax money anymore by up to two thirds of those who did it before.
The other reasons for carrying a low interest rate mortgage are still true.
I didn’t realize the rate was so low now for people who itemize. I guess I’m outing myself when I say we still do it? I’m not loaded or anything, but we do enough giving and have mortgage interest to make it worthwhile.
It could just be that you are in a higher cost housing market, or have big charitable donations. But also, yeah, you're probably also kinda loaded. 🙃
(at least when compared with the median American)
Well, we’ve been living the DINK lifestyle for a long time. It would be a very different story if we had only one income, or kids, or both. But yeah houses are pretty expensive where we are. Though from what I can tell, houses are expensive everywhere now 🫥
houses are expensive everywhere now
True 💀
My savings are invested in the stock market, and the returns I get from that are higher than the interest on my mortgage. If I liquidated my investments to pay off the house, the savings from not paying mortgage interest would still be less than what I’d make from the market over the same period. I’d rather use the profits from my investments to cover the mortgage interest - that way I still have money left over. If I did the opposite, I’d lose that extra money.
Your personal financial situation is not really representative of the financial situation of Americans in general though.
No, even regular savings accounts have ~4% interest, so it makes sense for anyone who got a mortgage more than 2-3 years ago when the rates went up. Any extra money shouldn't be going to pay down old debt faster, it should be in savings or other high yield accounts.
What would happen if stock market dives?
The value of my portfolio dips too, but I don’t actually lose anything unless I sell. I just hold and wait for prices to recover - as they always have so far. In fact, when the market drops I buy even more, because the same money gets me more shares. People don’t lose their savings because of a crash; they lose them because they panic and sell for less than they paid.
I have enough to pay off my house right now but I'm not because the interest rate is both lower than inflation and what I earn from interest, and other invesents, plus the increase in home values. If I paid off the house today then I also wouldn't have as much in my emergency fund. I have 5 years left of the mortgage, I'm paying roughly $50/mo interest which goes down every month.
I'm not who you are responding to, but I'm in the same position.
Interest rate on house mortgage is around 2%, currently looking to invest in an apartment in Europe. The current rates are ~4% here, so it makes more sense to keep the cheap money from the house mortgage than to trade it for more expensive money.
If a person has a house they are paying a monthly mortgage payment towards, no one in America would consider them "broke".
I was in debt for several years from college tuition, but would not have been considered "broke" because I managed a job that met my essentials plus enough to pay down my tuition loans.
Debt isn't seen as bad so long as it's being managed. Exceptions for Dave Ramsey fan types.
You could say college and housing and medical stuff should never out a person into debt and I would agree. But that wasn't the question, it was about general perspective in the US.
Yeah. Being broke is a problem with cash flow, not the balance sheet.
We have a very materialistic and consumeristic culture and we shame the poor.
Or more specifically, we are ashamed when we can't afford things we need. We are saturated by right-wing propaganda that says if you don't succeed, it's your fault. So, like abuse victims, we internalize the shame of what is done to us.
It's a message tailored so we don't question the rich, and as an added benefit to them, trains the poor to not seek government systemic solutions to the inequality that creates their poverty.
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How else are we supposed to know who's better than who?
I thought you guys used race and gender for that?
Oh that too. We make sure to remind the poor white folk they are still better than rich black people
As President Lyndon B(ig dick) Johnson once said
"If you can convince the lowest white man he's better than the best colored man, he won't notice you're picking his pocket. Hell, give him somebody to look down on, and he'll empty his pockets for you."
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I mean, it depends on what you mean by that. Anyone who has a credit card is going to have debt, just by virtue of needing to pay the bill.
But if you mean "most Americans have a negative net worth"
taking into account assets and debts
most Americans have a positive net worth.
https://www.kiplinger.com/retirement/average-net-worth-by-age-how-do-you-measure-up
The median net worth of all Americans in 2022 was $192,900.
I'd be interested to see the median net worth after removing the top 1%, but I can't be bothered to Google it atm ..
It'd have an effect, but not a large one
that's why one uses median, rather than mean.
Credit cards don't have to mean debt if you pay them off before the intrest applies. That's how you use them responsibly. Many don't.
It's debt regardless of whether or not one pays interest. Debt isn't linked to interest. Just means that you have an obligation to pay money to someone.
EDIT: Though in fairness, if one never actually uses a credit card at all, then one never takes out debt, so I suppose it's probably better to say "if one has a credit card that one uses".
EDIT2: Though all this is not to diminish your point that not carrying credit card debt from month to month is generally a pretty good rule to live by.
Yeah, but if you were younger than 35 in 2022, your net worth was 39,000 USD. It was already brutal, since society expects people to own, or at least rent, homes in their twenties. Now, I haven't heard about things shaping up for younger people (quite the contrary), Trump's dollars are less biggy and the clocking bomb in the form of inflation, they all paint a gloomy picture.
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Maybe the real curency was the debt we found along the way?
I blame that predestination bullshit that's in the country's DNA. If you're rich it must mean God loves you and if you're poor that's due to your sins.
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